She’s a keeper. You’re lucky. She’s letting you know what irritates her, and how to avoid aggravating her again and also providing a way to make it up to her. This is the way to a harmonious life.
Or she came up with a goal–and an annoyance to help drive it.
this is the fucked up comment
this is the meow meow comment. meow!
this is the correct comment
See I missed that…I’m also divorced
He isn’t a keeper though, how the fuck do you eat chocolate in a way where it gets all over where you’re eating it? I’ve had chocolate and just about any other food while in bed and black out drunk and never gotten any stains on the bedclothes.
I dunno she pretty clearly said she’s annoyed which sounds like a description of how angry she is
But how do I read these subtle hints, can’t she just tell me how she’s feeling?
Apparently not because even when she does nobody understands
People are capable of being annoyed by something but still make peace with their feelings and get on with their day.
Can some people not do this?
Not to mention that their partner is annoyed, but that doesn’t mean they suddenly don’t love them any more.
People weirdly paint each other as black and white, completely this or completely that, and don’t consider maturity and complexity. It’s odd.
Don’t buy fabrics you can’t wash. Seems kinda dumb.
Duvets usiually have duvet covers. The chocolate probably either went through the cover or it’s a button up duvet cover and got in.
The throw is what is unwashable. Dumb though, just wash it anyways or spot clean.
People who eat in bed are just animals.
My girlfriend got mad during sex the other day because she rolled over on her belly to change positions and CRUNCH potato chips I left in bed.
You are an animal if you eat crisps in bed.
Meow.
Dude I’ll eat a whole pizza in bed. I don’t care at all.
Thinking about people eating toast in bed makes me feel uncomfortable given the potential for crumbs.
I somwtimes eat in bed but if I do it’s stuff like hard candy or nuts or something like that. Basically things that don’t leave crumbs or anything behind.
Meow.
My wife eats in bed. Our cats don’t.
She was so mad about the chocolate, her mind immediately went to drinking.
Don’t eat chocolate in the bed you fuckin goblins!
Husband here.
Sometimes relationships end up with one “tidy one” and one “messy one”.
I busted my ass over the years to turn from a gremlin into a “tidy one”.
I got married to my “messy one”. She’s in charge of keeping the house clean.
I have to remind her not to eat in bed 🥲
Ok. I’m going to help you out. I’ll take your messy wife, and I’ll also be messy with her. We’ll eat chocolate in bed. We’ll leave trash in the shower. And burp in the car.
And you can take my wife.
Also, I’m not married.
Oh god, I just understood what an electric current is.
TIL I have a lot of potential!
Oh god, I just understood what an electric current is.
How do they tie together?
So let me get this straight. People complain when their gf gets mad over little things like chocolate in bed. They also complain when she doesnt. Wtf?
Wish my wife would tell me if something bothered her this calmly instead of bottling it up until she bursts and gets angry. Im no better just to be clear.
Ask her regularly if something is bothering her, or if there’s something you can do to make her day better.
Also, reflect on if there’s something you do that makes it hard for her to tell you her issues with you (body language, sighing, removing yourself, getting defensive…)
Maybe she just finds it hard to bother others with her problems, asking directly makes it easier.
And maybe you’re unconsciously communicating to her that she should leave you alone with her problems.
Anyway, the goal is to show her you’re by her side, tackling problems as a team. Not opposite her.Ask her regularly if something is bothering her
yeah…that’s a one way road to hell.
I mean this is sound advice that can go wrong if you hace the emotional intelligence of a doorknob (whicgmh is a lot of people, mostly men). Don’t just ask “is something botheribg you” so dryly and regularly you becomw whafs bothering her, but open lines of communication where you make it clear that you’re trying to improve your communication and then genuinely check in on her. Dont just ask if something is bothwring her, but find out how shes been and what may be adding stress into her life. Don’t immediately seek to fix it, but try to understand if she just needs to vent stress or if there are issues you can tsckle together. If an issue is identified, remember it is you and her vs the issue, not you vs her.
…y’all should work on that.
My brain mixed up duvet with bidet at first
When did she say she was mad??
it’s assumed that a woman is always mad at their male partner unless they are actively doing something to make her happy.
it’s a relationship trope.
and by mad not really angry, so much as dissatisfied.
by the time someone tells you directly they are annoyed by something you have done, it’s gone past the “ i don’t like it but i’m going to just deal with it” stage.
She never even said she’s mad.
Annoyed < mad
There is wine all over the van, lets not do a group winery day again.
Also - it would be fun to ride one of those Pedal Pubs.
I’m 100% sure I can wash that throw.
Unwashable, it says right in the text. Smh some people…
Maybe he ate the chocolate off of her body, so that’s why she is not mad, just annoyed it made a mess.
