• Pudutr0n@lemmy.world
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    16 days ago

    Look man, If I wanted to disappoint two people at once I’d take my parents out for dinner or find a couple of neurotypicals and have a threesome.

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    16 days ago

    I’m going to enjoy torturing my 14-year-old self. My 14-year-old self was a shithead. But I was raised in a conservative Catholic house, and at that age I firmly embraced the version of reality common among the Fox News set. I was that annoying conservative high schooler. Sure I was repping hard, but I was still an idiot.

    Now I’m a late-30s trans woman, about to celebrate 8 years of marriage to my wonderful husband.

    The things I can say. I’m going to haunt this kid’s dreams.

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    Hell yeah she would. I’m relatively safe and no longer being traumatized, that’s all she ever wanted.

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    14-year-old me would not be impressed, but 24-year-old me would be.

    The difference is experience and understanding what the hell we’re all up against.

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    I’m not sure if I’d be proud or disappointed.

    trigger warning

    By age 10, I’d already decided I was going to kill myself at 24, and I was looking forward to it, assuming I hadn’t already died by then. By my 14th birthday, I was doing my annual countdown from 10.

    I don’t know if I’d be excited that I found things that made life worth living, or consider myself a failure for getting it wrong when I tried. Reflecting on that age, I don’t think myself an idiot or anything, I just see a kid who tried their best with what they had, and had already given up on what seemed like an inescapable situation. I feel bad for 14 year-old me, and I’m not sure I’d be able to face that kid without feeling completely destroyed.

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      Why 24? If you don’t mind asking. That’s kinda odd number.

      Like i chose 18, as im an adult by then and all the drug lectures at school painted a picture that I’d be offered drugs everywhere. So the plan was to OD at 18th birthday, seemed kinda nice way to go and a better alternative than become communal Fleshlight in the prison. Not that there was even any realistic threat of that happening, but thats in hindsight.

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      So, I don’t know if there’s some kind of psychological phenomenon at play here — but it sounds like something very similar to a circumstance my mom went through (albeit, the stakes were much different).

      She used to smoke, and when she decided she wanted to have a kid (eventually me) she gave it up. What she told herself was that if she quit and wanted to start back up at 65, ok? Who cares, she’s already old at that point so it’s not like it’s worse than having smoked for the previous 45 years.

      Eventually never went back to them. She is actually repulsed by cigarettes now.

      I think what I take from that is my mom didn’t really give up cigarettes, at least not psychologically. In her mind she could go back at any time and there was no issue, she’d just go back to not smoking (and she didn’t even do that, she just quit). I wonder if maybe a similar thing happened to you here? You gave yourself a goal so far ahead in the future that you also gave yourself ample time to grow — even if that goal was inevitably death. It’s almost like sewerslide was your way of equalizing the playing field.

      Idk, I could be wrong — I’m glad you didn’t go through with it, though.

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        I accredit proper medication, scaring the shit out of my friends and family who I thought would have been happy if I were gone, and LARGELY that change in mindset that you’re talking about.

        Thank you for sharing that story

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    I’m one of the few people who’s 14 yo self would fucking admire, mostly for stupid teenage horny reasons but also video game industry reasons.

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        Even better (by 14 yo me standards), I met a pretty girl online, whom I later married and got into the industry (albeit, less cultured? Lol).

        When questioned by my childhood self why I am not making games myself, I point to my backlog and we both nod in agreement before I thoroughly wreck him in Smash Bros.

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          You think you could beat 14 year old you in smash bros?

          I was way better at fighting games when I was a teen than now. I played Street Fighter recently because of whatever compilation they were selling. I suck at it now. I bought sf2 like 4 times now and beat the game with each character back in the day. It’s hard to get past the 2nd stage now.

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            It’s more that I was not particularly good at it yet by 14, and Smash is particular. Plus I haven’t declined (yet), but maybe when I hit 40, hehe.

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    I’m playing video games all day every day. He would be amazed. It’s adult me knows it’s bad

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    If I had advice to give my younger self, I’d have to be very careful about the whole causality problem. At 45 I have two awesome kids aged 5 and 2. I have an amazing wife who multiplies both my happiness and ability to make a living. Both my wife and I were previously divorced. I wouldn’t change anything that might prevent me from meeting her and helping to bring my kids into the world.

    If I had perfect temporal guardrails that would ensure this family path, I’d tell my younger self that it works out pretty well in the long run, but huge mistakes were needed to forge me into who I am today. Also, buy Nvidia stock.

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    I just want to hug him and tell him and anyone his age that “teenage/school years are the best years of your life” is a bold-faced LIE.

    It gets better.

    It gets WAY better.

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      Leaving a small town, with small people, with small minds was a revelation

      I was finally able to start becoming who I am, rather than what was needed to survive

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      “teenage/school years are the best years of your life”

      I think it’s a point in your life when you are old enough to do things you’ve never done before but young enough to still have plenty of room to take risks, fuck up, and come out better for it.

      Not the apex of your career or the peak of your romance life or anything. But the moment when anything is possible and you shouldn’t feel hedged in by obligations or fear of failure.