• garbagebagel@lemmy.world
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    14 days ago

    There’s no way this is an autistic only trait right? You’re telling me people just go around dealing with those things?

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      There’s a difference between “that’s a bit annoying” and “I literally can’t think of anything else and I must tear off the tag even if I destroy the shirt and I mean RIGHT now or I’m getting naked”

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      I read your comment, thought “Am I dealing with one?” and had to reach into my shirt to check if it had one or not. It turns out it does! So… I guess so. I’m irregular in other ways, though, so I might not be a good point of comparison.

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        I leave those on too, isunless they’re the variety that’s more stale than usual. Those bastards itch

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        Autist here:

        I either buy shirts that don’t have them, or use a seam ripper to take them off, when I get them.

        Yeah, they’re so annoying that I have a whole pre-planned way of handling this, lol.

        Sometimes… somtimes, the tag will be made of a kind of fabric that is actually very soft, not scratchy, not pokey. This is very rare in my experience, but I have had a few bits of clothes like that.

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        I confirm i have one, well two, but i can’t tell exactly. The annoying ones are usually long. Also you better not start thinking about these little things because it’s like virus.

        No really don’t even start to think about it.

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      13 days ago

      Its annoying to normies.

      It causes more or less significant to extreme mental and physical anguish to many autists.

      Many autists have basically heightened levels of awareness with one or many of their physical senses, as compared to non autists.

      Like, I frequently notice minor visual details in the world around me, that most other people completely miss, tell me I’m lying when I say I saw them, then they go check and are angry that I was right.

      Same thing with heightened sensitivity to bright light, as well as extreme repulsion from certain color palettes.

      Or, same kind of thing with sounds. Myself, a lot of other autistic people get extremely irritated by low intensity, but perisistent sounds that are either very high or very low frequency … that most people don’t notice untill you tell them to stop and focus, then, they can hear them.

      But for autists it is… sometimes literally so annoying it will drive you mad. It causes actual pain from how stressed it makes you.

      Its why autists and noise canceling headphones are a thing.

      Most ‘ASMR’ videos?

      I’d rather run into brick wall at 20 mph.

      ASMR is a thing, but, as a genre of content, its largely a bunch of idiots making the most annoying and aggravating sounds possible, and acting like its soothing.

      tl:dr; yeah, its not an autistic only thing, but something like this is fucking kryptonite to autists.

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        I have sound sensitivity as well, but actually love asmr when it’s done correctly. But you’re right, the majority of it is garbage.

        Thanks! I was curious because I have other traits that have been labelled as neurodivergent by my therapists but I’m not diagnosed or anything so I never know if something is “normal” or not.

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          Yeah!

          Real, actual ASMR is very neat, when done properly…

          … but, these days, its mostly idiots that have warped it from an actual, specific, biophysical effect, into a massively bastardized basicslly just flavor of slop content.

          And also… yeah, at least in the US, its very difficult to find a therapist that knows much about autism, its even more difficult to get a diagnosis if you sre an adult.

          https://raads-rtest.org/

          Take that, take the results of it to your therapist.

          Chances are, that’ll be the first time they’ve even heard of this, despite it being pretty well established in the field… because most US therapists don’t know that much about autism. You have to find, and be able to afford, someone with specific training.

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            because most US therapists don’t know that much about autism.

            Fun fact - many textbooks still say girls can’t be autistic. I tutor psychology occasionally and I’ve seen it more than once.

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      Depends if you can stand to wear a wool turtleneck (over another shirt that keeps the wool only touching your neck).

      I can’t stand any turtleneck, personally, for exactly the same reason I can’t do tags. It’s there touching me, and it feels wrong but won’t go away, and the wrongness bothers me. Even super fluffy soft fabrics are wrong on my neck.

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    I think the little dangling threads really put this over the top for me.

    I feel delightfully squirmy, but not in the fun way.

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    I would literally kill someone if they tried to force me to wear that, or die trying.

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    Alternatively: destroy it.

    I usually have a pocket knife and zippo within 50 feet of me.

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    If you somehow manage to put that shit on me, you better kill me afterwards. Because if I take it off, you’re going to deal with an overloaded velocirap human that’s going to show you the meaning of overcharged anger.

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      It’s interesting to me that people like you exist (even though I’m assuming you’re in the vast majority). It’s like how it sounds made up to me that there are these supposed “extroverts” that gain energy from talking to people.

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      One can usually tell by the cut of the material. For example, on tshirts, look at where the shoulder seam meets the neck, it will usually be to the back of center.