• okwhateverdude@lemmy.world
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    25 days ago

    I guess I am having a difficult time understanding the fuck up. Like, shack up the olds together so they can be independent longer. Plus, if they move in together, holiday visits require travel to just one place instead of two or worse, having to choose which family to see for which holiday.

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    I wonder if the OP refers to their spouse as stepbro/stepsis now (I totally would, jokingly, and in front of said parents)

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    I know a couple whose single parents got together and theyre perfect for each other. Threw me for a loop at first but hey, everyone’s happy.

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      Honestly, this makes more sense to me than anything else. If their adult children like each other, the apple wouldn’t have fallen far from the tree.

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        So without getting into a huge debate about nature and nurture since both are at play and helping both couples out, I want to talk about my uncle Spud.

        We were at a family reunion, and suddenly my mother noticed how I was standing with the exact same posture and pose as Spud and my cool brother. Spud didn’t get as much time with Grumpa as he should have growing up, you know divorce. Anyways all three us guys and my mother and my cool sister were all standing there with our hands on our hips with a bit of a hunch in our necks because that’s the spine Grumpa gave us. The only person at the reunion who was around Grumpa enough to really start to learn his posture (besides Gran) was my mother, yet there we were.

        Honestly some of the things you can unwittingly inherit are surprising. I bet the parents saw their kids and thought “well of course they’re in love, they’re little 'Us’es”

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    Oh I got one better. My stepfather’s father married his ex-wives mom making his ex-wife his sister. What a shit show during the holidays!

    And no not backwoods BS we come from big money, its was a nightmare.

    I had no skin in the game so I watched from the sidelines w/ popcorn…

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    I have told some of this story here before but I had some friends in high school. They started dating. At first their parents thought they were too young to date, and then the parents met each other. Blablabla The parents promised to wait until the kids graduated high school to get married because that would “make it weird” according to the mom. Like a month after graduation the kids eloped and then the parents stopped being so weird. Well, a little. Then half a year later the parents got married.

    Both couples are still together, so good on them for figuring it out.

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      Same happened to one of my friends but their parents married during the children’s engagement, kinda weird that she married her brother-in-law but they’re all still together 12 years later

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      first i was thinking how cumbersome it becomes if one of the relationships goes down, but the more i think about it, the less it sounds like an actual problem. i guess if they are into regular family gatherings it might be troublesome.

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    The ex of a girl I dated in high school ended up her cousin by marriage and they kinda just rolled with it.

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    This happened to my mother and father in law. It was awkward but they did get married first so they claim they aren’t the weird ones.