• defunct_punk@lemmy.world
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      15 days ago

      Right? “Made me cry on a school trip” (for reasons that I’m sure we’re totally out of line on the teacher’s part and omitted just for brevity’s sake)

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      Oh my god, yes. Your best victory is the victory of succeeding at something and moving the fuck on with your life if you can. People are shitty. Our environment is shitty. It is what it is. Keep trucking. I am a product of my environment, but I can control some of it. In my opinion, chasing your goals, time and distance is a solution for all social ills. Well maybe not all but I mean shit you gotta try

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      Mortgage applications are not yes or no. There is a checklist that if met, gets approved. The name doesn’t even matter. Just basic credit bullshit.

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    Seeing the people that are happy to ruin someone else’s life because they were bullied by them a decade ago…goes to show you no one can ever forgive. Just animals the lot of ya…people change, maybe give them a chance.

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      13 days ago

      I suspect the story in the tweet is fake so probably don’t need to worry about the wellbeing of this hypothetical teacher.

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      As someone who was bullied, and who still has flashbacks and triggers from it… Yeah I would try to forgive them, but I’m not going to feel bad about delivering some consequences.

      Like I’m glad that you grew as a person but the injured party should decide if the person who inflicted the injury gets a free pass. And either way they’re 100% correct.

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        No you just have a light taste of revenge in your heart and are trying to justify it any way you can. I was bullied too up until my sophomore year of highschool starting in kindergarten so I’m no stranger to being bullied. All because of a disease I had.

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        But I guess whoever bullied you was another kid doing it over and over? Not a teache that made you cry during a school trip one day.

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      Yeah it’s cool to keep letting shity people get away with being shitty right? Along as your not like them right? An qdeye for an eye would leave the whole world blind right. So it makes sense to just only have one guy miss his eye because revenge would be wrong. People change their hobbies, interests, clothes. Not shitty attitudes and behaviors. *

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      I had my college plans plans ruined because of “uncooperative” guidance counselors. I recently found out that I actually tested advance proficient for science, but was refused higher then remedial classes. They didn’t gain anything by doing that. I would absolutely “pass it forward.”

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      Also this is against a former teacher, maybe he was a terrible kid and the teacher got mad at him for a reason.

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      Probably less of an issue with a person’s capability for forgiveness as much as the continuous tormenting of a child in their developmental stages will have a disproportionately heavy impact in their psyche.

      The bullying may have also played a large role in building the bullied’s sense of justice, and seizing on an opportunity to “do a solid” for that young defenseless and miserable child within you could go a long way to closing the circle on fundamental issues you have with the ability for any form of justice, civil or vigilante, to carry through and provide consequences.

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    You get what you give. Don’t become the monster. A real class act would just dangle it in front of them and then just approve it anyways. Like bitch I’m over it, I don’t give a fuck. You’re just a dumb ass speed bump.

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      Maybe the mortgage application was just not within approval guidelines. It is not like a bank clerk gets to arbitrarily decide by personal sympathy.

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          Where else do you get mortgages?

          I mean, technically you can contract a mortgage between any two legally able persons.

          But I’d say a mortgage between private individuals is a rare exception.

          Usually it is bank/credit unions, or corporations specializing in mortgages as their primary business. But I think you can lump most of those under the umbrella term. At least as far as their employees being able to just approve or deny you for personal reasons.

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            The person who runs these things is not the clerk. There is no implication that they were the clerk in the transaction. They could be, but that’s not implied at ALL. No matter how many worthless shitbags downvote the truth.

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    There are some teachers I had who were absolutely bad people, but honestly, they are teachers and you are not. You already have the best revenge.

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      You’re going to send your kids to these schools. And as we start lowering the bar more and more, we’re going to have some very anti-social human beings around people’s children. And those children are going to become citizens in our society. Hurt people, hurt people, in which they shouldn’t. You should break the cycle and overthrow kings. There is a reason why things are the way they are. And if not aware, you can become a product of your environment.