People just generally give women a pass/see women as more attractive for the same equivalent level of attractiveness or effort for the photo. They also feel much more pressured by society to be all "WOW! I’ve never seen tits in my life!!!Magnifico! ✨✨🍆*
Nudes suck.
Thats my hot take.
The fucking suck, the person sending them expects you to receive them like they’re gods gift to green earth and they’re (the photos, not the person) just mid, so you have to act like you’re a pavloved chimpanzee in full caveman mode so excited by this barely lit could be big foot sighting.
At best nudes are an indication the person sending you them wants to fuck.
They’re not jerk off material. They’re barely semi chub material.
They’re just… mid.
Could be the hottest person imaginable and they’d still be mid.
Its ultimately just a poorly taken picture with poor lighting, with someone who (reasonably) won’t be bending over backwards to send you page 34 of the Kama Sutra.
It would be so fucking nice if it was deemed socially appropriate to say “Look lady, I don’t need to see a 15th picture of your gooch from the same fucking angle” (but you know, with tact), but instead if you ever were to do that, they’d misinterpret your message as “I’m not all that sexually interested in you” rather than “I’m not all that sexually interested in every piece of evidence there is for extraterrestrial UFOs existing, but in a vaguely human shape”.
Just a bit of a rant I hope was humorous but like seriously, I thought a few years back… probably like 15-20 years back, we all kinda agreed that nudes were stupid for security and revenge porn reasons, but now it seems the world is back at it again, for seemingly no reason, because next to no one is actually masturbating to these, and its like, just some fun chatting would get across the same effect or more, because it could display more personal knowledge of the other persons preferences and your desire for them.
I think a lot of men genuinely pick bad ways to take nudes. There’s “mid pic”, then there’s “pic from a really bad angle with bad lighting”, and especially dick pics tend to be the latter.
Honestly, no doubt there’s truth there, as I think a lot of guys focus on making their dicks look big because from a typical straight(… actually gay too) guys perspective on sex, like thinking about sex from a mans perspective as if you were a woman, its like, you gotta make the lightning rod spark. Like the weight of the dick is elevated much more than the types of shit women want to see more of, like a lot of veiny-ness (which I think I can speak for the average man in saying, we generally don’t like on women (I think gay men differ from men here)), that brooding batman style of posing, the arms, forearms, and some chest hair, a confident and slightly domineering position, etc. Heck, I’m probably even somewhat wrong there.
I do think women tend to do this quite a bit as well, with all that weird duck lip, hand under chin, Victorian era poses, theatre kid coy, kinda “Sappho and her friend” leaning photos where to a lot of guys its like, Eyyy, show off all of that thing (where that thing is honestly a lot of things), or give me some “Ill be like this for you [sir/daddy/baby/pet/insert favourite pet name]”.
I dunno. It just all feels like I think people find it hard to conceptualize what the other person is truly looking for out of a photo because despite being into each other, people don’t really share their photo preferences in particular, and you can’t even necessarily transfer what you know about the other person in bed to what they’ll think looks good in a photo because the scenario is so different.
That being said, I really do think most pictures from both, dare I say all (to be more inclusive), tend to still ultimately, on average, be just mid.
Like no one is opening up their curtains, buying diffuse lighting, taking a hundred different shots, story boarding their angles, making sure all the money showpieces are hairless, or appropriately and perfectly haired or whatever it is for whoever it’s intended for, dehydrating to lean up, etc.
Like, to get nice photos, you basically have to become a NSFW content creator without the monetary incentive, and that’s a lot of work when the other person probably appreciate that time a lot more in person.
As someone who both loves to see nude dudes, and who gets… not ‘pestered’ for them, but ‘requested, often’ for them, either you are getting sent shit-tier pics or you think the mona lisa of tits is a boner-killer.
All I need is a guy, visually or audibly (woof~) enjoying themselves. That’s it, that’s the core request. I prefer that the camera is focused, that I can see that cock in full-frame for the entire duration, that he’s washed his hands and doesn’t have crumbs under his fingernails, stuff like that. But if it’s hot, at the end of the day I don’t give a fuck. And if I can sense that it’s got real passion - maybe there’s a ton of pictures and I can follow the story, it’s building narrative (and need, and leaking precum), the agonizing peak, and the messy finish, fuck yeah. If it has needy, desperate moans, gasps, begging… I might finish before they do.
My own stuff is awful, I know it’s awful, I warn others that it is awful. I get told that it’s not. I warn people that I’m not attractive, that I’m awkward (I’m chubby and disabled). Again, I get told that it’s hot, and am encouraged to keep making new stuff. And the people that I follow, I try to encourage too. Putting yourself out there, in any capacity, is a huge leap of trust. People are awful, and for many exposing themselves like this is scary. I follow people who, like myself, post to the internet where if anyone knows the service you’re posting on, or find the link, they can view it. And I also get sent stuff just for me directly, and those I view as even more special. I could be a huge piece of shit and share them with others, but I’m both not a huge piece of shit, and the understanding that someone made content for me because I want them, I crave them, I want to ravage their body until they faint and then keep going (consentually), for example, and they understand and are signaling they want that, too - huff!
You need better stuff to look at, and/or a personal connection to someone who wants to [TV bleep] you until your [bleep] is so exhausted and ruined that that then they are going to [bleep] you until you scream and beg, then get harder and harder until you [bleep] over and over until you are totally dry, and they they are going to focus the attention on themselves for part 2. And they want to document these plans in photographic form, maybe with a captivating video ending. Those are the people you want to find.
i relate to this comment so much. getting weird gross nudes from a woman is really offputting, even if you are into her.
i also see it in so many other ways. women get a huge pass in life from men because sex, and other women because in group solidarity. every mid thing they do is this huge achievement for some reason. i don’t understand.
but i know it’s a long documented psychological bias called the women are wonderful effect. and anytime you mention it, people deny it exists and start arguing with you how men are evil and women are great, proving the very effect they think they are disputing.
Just a bit of a rant I hope was humorous but like seriously, I thought a few years back… probably like 15-20 years back, we all kinda agreed that nudes were stupid for security and revenge porn reasons, but now it seems the world is back at it again, for seemingly no reason, because next to no one is actually masturbating to these, and its like, just some fun chatting would get across the same effect or more, because it could display more personal knowledge of the other persons preferences and your desire for them.
Definitely not. I’m describing a situation where someone you know is sending you nudes.
I also am definitely as enticed by people irl or porn as any other person. I just don’t find nudes all that great. Like, I’d probably enjoy taking the nudes with someone over seeing them, or better yet, just doing things.
Hell yeah brother. Preach it. Hard agree. Since I turned 40 I’ve started to realize: “this isn’t that big of a deal. I’ll save my enthusiasm for the opening night”.
Titties are nice, it’s fine to have them or share them but they’re really just bags of fat bolted onto a chest so don’t expect me to lose my shit after seeing them for the 20th time.
Yeah, nudes from chicks usually are just close up shots that even a gyno would say is too close. Half the time it just looks like someone took a close up shot of an out of date corned beef sandwich…
You fucking wish.
In reality nudes from women look shit too.
People just generally give women a pass/see women as more attractive for the same equivalent level of attractiveness or effort for the photo. They also feel much more pressured by society to be all "WOW! I’ve never seen tits in my life!!! Magnifico! ✨✨🍆*
Nudes suck.
Thats my hot take.
The fucking suck, the person sending them expects you to receive them like they’re gods gift to green earth and they’re (the photos, not the person) just mid, so you have to act like you’re a pavloved chimpanzee in full caveman mode so excited by this barely lit could be big foot sighting.
At best nudes are an indication the person sending you them wants to fuck.
They’re not jerk off material. They’re barely semi chub material.
They’re just… mid.
Could be the hottest person imaginable and they’d still be mid.
Its ultimately just a poorly taken picture with poor lighting, with someone who (reasonably) won’t be bending over backwards to send you page 34 of the Kama Sutra.
It would be so fucking nice if it was deemed socially appropriate to say “Look lady, I don’t need to see a 15th picture of your gooch from the same fucking angle” (but you know, with tact), but instead if you ever were to do that, they’d misinterpret your message as “I’m not all that sexually interested in you” rather than “I’m not all that sexually interested in every piece of evidence there is for extraterrestrial UFOs existing, but in a vaguely human shape”.
Just a bit of a rant I hope was humorous but like seriously, I thought a few years back… probably like 15-20 years back, we all kinda agreed that nudes were stupid for security and revenge porn reasons, but now it seems the world is back at it again, for seemingly no reason, because next to no one is actually masturbating to these, and its like, just some fun chatting would get across the same effect or more, because it could display more personal knowledge of the other persons preferences and your desire for them.
Bah.
Someone’s never received good nudes
This guy is receiving way too many nudes
That’s a spicy hot take. Upvoted for passion and expressiveness, but hard disagree.
Thanks for this reminder that I can ardently disagree with someone’s opinion and still think absolutely nothing less of them.
Nudes suck! Please women don’t send me any to change my mind!
Narrator: They didn’t.
Upvoted for bravery, but I have never disagreed so wholly with someone on any topic more than this.
I think a lot of men genuinely pick bad ways to take nudes. There’s “mid pic”, then there’s “pic from a really bad angle with bad lighting”, and especially dick pics tend to be the latter.
Honestly, no doubt there’s truth there, as I think a lot of guys focus on making their dicks look big because from a typical straight(… actually gay too) guys perspective on sex, like thinking about sex from a mans perspective as if you were a woman, its like, you gotta make the lightning rod spark. Like the weight of the dick is elevated much more than the types of shit women want to see more of, like a lot of veiny-ness (which I think I can speak for the average man in saying, we generally don’t like on women (I think gay men differ from men here)), that brooding batman style of posing, the arms, forearms, and some chest hair, a confident and slightly domineering position, etc. Heck, I’m probably even somewhat wrong there.
I do think women tend to do this quite a bit as well, with all that weird duck lip, hand under chin, Victorian era poses, theatre kid coy, kinda “Sappho and her friend” leaning photos where to a lot of guys its like, Eyyy, show off all of that thing (where that thing is honestly a lot of things), or give me some “Ill be like this for you [sir/daddy/baby/pet/insert favourite pet name]”.
I dunno. It just all feels like I think people find it hard to conceptualize what the other person is truly looking for out of a photo because despite being into each other, people don’t really share their photo preferences in particular, and you can’t even necessarily transfer what you know about the other person in bed to what they’ll think looks good in a photo because the scenario is so different.
That being said, I really do think most pictures from both, dare I say all (to be more inclusive), tend to still ultimately, on average, be just mid.
Like no one is opening up their curtains, buying diffuse lighting, taking a hundred different shots, story boarding their angles, making sure all the money showpieces are hairless, or appropriately and perfectly haired or whatever it is for whoever it’s intended for, dehydrating to lean up, etc.
Like, to get nice photos, you basically have to become a NSFW content creator without the monetary incentive, and that’s a lot of work when the other person probably appreciate that time a lot more in person.
Broadly speaking about straight men and women sexting, I think a lot of it falls on men not knowing what their partner may want to see.
A lot of male nude selfies are so bad, though, it shouldn’t be that hard to see that … and why are women better at determining what men want, anyway?
As someone who both loves to see nude dudes, and who gets… not ‘pestered’ for them, but ‘requested, often’ for them, either you are getting sent shit-tier pics or you think the mona lisa of tits is a boner-killer.
All I need is a guy, visually or audibly (woof~) enjoying themselves. That’s it, that’s the core request. I prefer that the camera is focused, that I can see that cock in full-frame for the entire duration, that he’s washed his hands and doesn’t have crumbs under his fingernails, stuff like that. But if it’s hot, at the end of the day I don’t give a fuck. And if I can sense that it’s got real passion - maybe there’s a ton of pictures and I can follow the story, it’s building narrative (and need, and leaking precum), the agonizing peak, and the messy finish, fuck yeah. If it has needy, desperate moans, gasps, begging… I might finish before they do.
My own stuff is awful, I know it’s awful, I warn others that it is awful. I get told that it’s not. I warn people that I’m not attractive, that I’m awkward (I’m chubby and disabled). Again, I get told that it’s hot, and am encouraged to keep making new stuff. And the people that I follow, I try to encourage too. Putting yourself out there, in any capacity, is a huge leap of trust. People are awful, and for many exposing themselves like this is scary. I follow people who, like myself, post to the internet where if anyone knows the service you’re posting on, or find the link, they can view it. And I also get sent stuff just for me directly, and those I view as even more special. I could be a huge piece of shit and share them with others, but I’m both not a huge piece of shit, and the understanding that someone made content for me because I want them, I crave them, I want to ravage their body until they faint and then keep going (consentually), for example, and they understand and are signaling they want that, too - huff!
You need better stuff to look at, and/or a personal connection to someone who wants to [TV bleep] you until your [bleep] is so exhausted and ruined that that then they are going to [bleep] you until you scream and beg, then get harder and harder until you [bleep] over and over until you are totally dry, and they they are going to focus the attention on themselves for part 2. And they want to document these plans in photographic form, maybe with a captivating video ending. Those are the people you want to find.
i relate to this comment so much. getting weird gross nudes from a woman is really offputting, even if you are into her.
i also see it in so many other ways. women get a huge pass in life from men because sex, and other women because in group solidarity. every mid thing they do is this huge achievement for some reason. i don’t understand.
but i know it’s a long documented psychological bias called the women are wonderful effect. and anytime you mention it, people deny it exists and start arguing with you how men are evil and women are great, proving the very effect they think they are disputing.
You may be demi, sounds familiar to a lot of my demi friends experiences
Definitely not. I’m describing a situation where someone you know is sending you nudes.
I also am definitely as enticed by people irl or porn as any other person. I just don’t find nudes all that great. Like, I’d probably enjoy taking the nudes with someone over seeing them, or better yet, just doing things.
Hell yeah brother. Preach it. Hard agree. Since I turned 40 I’ve started to realize: “this isn’t that big of a deal. I’ll save my enthusiasm for the opening night”.
Titties are nice, it’s fine to have them or share them but they’re really just bags of fat bolted onto a chest so don’t expect me to lose my shit after seeing them for the 20th time.
Maybe the ones you’ve seen. The nudes ive received were on the level of French-painted goddesses.
Yeah, nudes from chicks usually are just close up shots that even a gyno would say is too close. Half the time it just looks like someone took a close up shot of an out of date corned beef sandwich…