• bizarroland@lemmy.world
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      I think it’s sympathy worthy because of the fact she wasn’t doing it to spite her patients. She was doing it because she was suffering from an addiction, and addiction makes people do things that they wouldn’t normally do.

      So it’s humanizing his mother and saying she was someone who was caught up in something that was too big for her to control and that is sad.

      That doesn’t excuse the fact that she raised a piece of shit child, or that she hurt people from her addiction. It just sets all of that to the side to focus on the one specific thing that someone with empathy can sympathize over.

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        As someone who grew up with a sibling who became an addict, leading them from being just a regular asshole to being downright abusive on top of all of the theft, volatility, and other drug-related issues…

        Yeah. Still, it took me some 15 years or so to reach that line of relative forgiveness.

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      Because it’s driven by intense desperation. You don’t help addicts by ambushing them, you help them by understanding what’s caused them to be the way that they are and how to break their system of dependence. You can’t advance as a society without being able to break unhealthy cycles. So yes, monstrous but sympathy-worthy

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        I’m sure you don’t mean it that way, but I think even the phrase “be the way that they are” is lacking empathy and looking at it the wrong way. It’s not about the way that they are; it’s about the way that they are handling the stressors in their life.

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          13 days ago

          You’re digging into my extreme time crunch comment and finding hard nuggets. I assure you, each and every one of them was a kernel of corn. I wasn’t attacking you, I just had 30 seconds to explain addiction counseling to someone without a visible understanding of it.

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              I don’t mean to sound rude, but I don’t see this conversation going anywhere positive. You’re entirely too upset and I’m entirely too indifferent. If anyone asks, tell them you won this conversation and I’ll corroborate. Here’s an updoot