Asking “so what do you do for a living?” when meeting someone new as if their job defines them. It’s one of the first questions Americans will ask someone when meeting them for the first time. I am American, but as I understand it, this question is far less common elsewhere in the world.
There are worse first questions.
Like the “Where are you from? No, I mean originally” you get asked in Germany if you aren’t white and straight-haired.
I can have so much fun with that question! Esp. because in German (“Wo kommst du her?”) I can logically answer “from work” first, then my home, then I ask them to specify what they mean by originally. By that point they are usually sufficiently humbled.
Some keep on stumbling not realizing that the words they choose don’t matter, it’s their attitude I resist.
And if someone asks me that question before asking my name I refuse to answer anyhow.
If they answer with hobbies and interests, they’re more my kind of person. If they answer with their job stuff, well that’s just their main life thing.
I just ask, in a screaming tone, WHO DOES NUMBER TWO WORK FOR???
They usually just look at me, and assume there’s been some kind of language barrier. Nope. I’m just referencing an obscure scene that nobody remembers from Austin Powers: International Man of Mystery. A film that came out in 1997. So a lot of people these days weren’t even BORN when that movie came out.
This has always gotten under my skin as well. I generally downplay it to make my job sound as common as possible, and I do not return the question. What I do for money has very little influence on who I am or what I enjoy.
Asking “so what do you do for a living?” when meeting someone new as if their job defines them. It’s one of the first questions Americans will ask someone when meeting them for the first time. I am American, but as I understand it, this question is far less common elsewhere in the world.
There are worse first questions.
Like the “Where are you from? No, I mean originally” you get asked in Germany if you aren’t white and straight-haired.
Omg this fucking question.
I swear, white people never get asked that question.
It’s always like Hispanics/Latinos and Asians getting asked that.
I think I’ve internalized it a bit that I realized when I was in school, I never asked where the white classmates are from.
Feel so weird that “white” is “default” in the US.
Makes me feel like a perpetual foreigner.
I can have so much fun with that question! Esp. because in German (“Wo kommst du her?”) I can logically answer “from work” first, then my home, then I ask them to specify what they mean by originally. By that point they are usually sufficiently humbled.
Some keep on stumbling not realizing that the words they choose don’t matter, it’s their attitude I resist.
And if someone asks me that question before asking my name I refuse to answer anyhow.
Depends on where in America, too. It literally is question #1 in D.C., but has been less so elsewhere, in my experience.
I ask, “So what do you do?”
If they answer with hobbies and interests, they’re more my kind of person. If they answer with their job stuff, well that’s just their main life thing.
If you ask an American they will assume you MEAN their job, whether it’s their “main life thing” or not, because that’s how people talk here
I just ask, in a screaming tone, WHO DOES NUMBER TWO WORK FOR???
They usually just look at me, and assume there’s been some kind of language barrier. Nope. I’m just referencing an obscure scene that nobody remembers from Austin Powers: International Man of Mystery. A film that came out in 1997. So a lot of people these days weren’t even BORN when that movie came out.
You show that turd who’s boss!
Can we get a courtesy flush?
This has always gotten under my skin as well. I generally downplay it to make my job sound as common as possible, and I do not return the question. What I do for money has very little influence on who I am or what I enjoy.
I like the phrase “make a living” though because it doesn’t necessarily refer to economical stuff.