Green flag. This is science girlfriend behavior
(in George Takei’s voice) Oh, my!
How on earth did we make this a three way???
That’s a both flags if I ever heard one
a brown flag
Chartreuse?
Shart ruse
Enjoyed watching me suffer -> Definitely into anal
But there’s a caveat 🌚
Yellow?
Maybe we’re all a little flag fatigued, and we don’t need to analyze every behavior of a bunch of jumped up apes on a scorecard of correct and incorrect answers for every decision they make?
I get that we are all hyper-aware of just how bad it can get if we don’t pay attention to warning signs in 2025, but can’t someone do something a little quirky without it being an indicator of virtue or flaw?
Would it be better to just say, do you like it or don’t like it? Cause I like a little quirky and no, a single post from a stranger doesn’t make us all into world renowned psychoanalysts.
But judgement and assumption are some of our favorite hobbies, we need them to understand the world and feel safe. How would my life be interesting to anyone if I didn’t invent the story!?
Hmmmm… maybe it was neither a red flag nor a green flag. Maybe it was just scientific curiosity. Mouse in a maze type of thing haha
Makes it a green flag to me tbh
100% Green Flag. She was checking you for red flags and aware of her surroundings.
Did you panic? Ask someone else? Freak out and leave? Pick your nose? Exhibit signs of being nuts? No? You figured it out and were not weird? Great. Then she doesn’t need to duck out before you find the place. OP posting about this online means she ought to cut it off with him, she’s better than him.
Edit: Some of y’all need to talk to a woman some time.
Speaking of red flags…
Green flag, letting you make your own mistakes without getting mad
Green flag, she’s down for social experiments
All these comments about her but nobody has asked how it took him 7 minutes to find a cafe in one intersection? It’s not a secret lair, presumably enough people find it that it stays in business.
I would have been fascinated by this attitude and we would have had an extensive conversation on the risks and controls of this process
- “Has trouble finding things” hmmm.
- “Persistent”
I probably would have done the same thing. Sounds cute to watch.
I would say this is definitely not a red flag.
But I’m also not saying it’s green. Probably more green than anything… Maybe a nice seafoam.
The Good is that she wasn’t angry and was being patient. Letting you figure it out. The not great but not bad part of this is that she did nothing to help.
I would have just stepped outside for “some fresh air” and wait for the person to notice me standing next to the entrance. That way I’m helping them, but only a little, they still have to find me. Finding me may be easier than finding the establishment that we agreed to meet at.
The key here is to not go out and call them over. Let them find you. If you call them, it’s kinda difficult to walk the line of, “oh hey, I’m over here” and not cross over into “get over here stupid. I had to come get you because you’re to dumb to find things yourself”… Best play is just to make yourself more obvious.
I wouldn’t say this is a green flag as it is, but it’s definitely not a red one.
Hehehe I’m way too autistic for this type of internal monologue.
Hey fren wassup!
ADHD here. We study behavior so we can mask.
It becomes almost rudimentary when you notice the patterns. Just need to know what to look for and constantly be thinking of how the other person will see it.
The not great but not bad part of this is that she did nothing to help.
She gets this opportunity to study his thinking from this perspective ONCE. Let her enjoy, and if she still likes him, and he likes her, that was an awesome move!
Coming back to edit… if I’m the lost dude, and she comes out to grab me, that’s embarrassing. Fuck that. Everything that happened was good. It’s a green flag now.
It’s a red flag on the third date.
That’s a fine opinion. You have every right to disagree with me and I’ll fight anyone who tries to take that away from you.
We may not agree on this, but it’s not worth getting bothered about. Enjoy your day!
I once saw a professor on my way to his class and, since I really abhor small talk, I kept walking just far back enough for him to not notice me until we got to the classroom where he just kept walking straight ahead. I went in and 15 minutes later he arrived saying “I couldn’t find the classroom”. No, it wasn’t the first class.
Depends on how hot she was.
I still would.
Yes.
My only thought would be “she wanted to stare at me?”
