Yeah I have a history of disassociation as well (yay cptsd), but I’ve noticed a particular way it looks in cluster b folks, and it’s more clear the less healthy they are. (A friend who underwent enough dbt to have it be hard to tell she has bpd didn’t have the look at all.) I think it’s partly that they’re disassociating anticipatorally and in situations where they’re going in and out.

And yeah BPD and NPD are really similar in a lot of ways. My father is a narcissist and he had a violent childhood that drove him to seek status and control. Very similarly the BPD folks I’ve got scars from had rough childhoods as well, even the one who lied about every aspect of her past. They struggle with identity and self care and struggle to deal with distress without disassociating or attacking.

I’m sympathetic to cluster b folks, I’m incredibly grateful I managed to leave my childhood without being one of them. I wish them all great treatment and can be friends with many once they’ve gotten control of themselves and their emotions and are mostly asymptomatic. And I feel awful for the burdens their diagnoses and conditions leave on them throughout life. But also I can’t be the damage left behind in their wakes anymore.

If anyone with a cluster b personality disorder is reading this or anyone reading this feels like they might have one, DBT works when you commit to it and do all the work. It’ll be slow and it’ll hurt, but it saves lives especially for people with bpd. It can give you the tools to stop hurting yourself and others. Those of us who’ve been hurt by folks with cluster b disorders want the people with them to heal and learn to stop hurting people.

Like everyone else is saying, find a way to participate. I’m absolutely awful at posting, but I can comment regularly so I do that a lot. If you notice anything you want missing it’s gonna be up to you to inspire others by posting about it and being actively involved in other posts about it.

Oh also a lot of folks on here suck to varying degrees. Not all are necessarily ban worthy, but some will be. There are instances you may choose to block as well. In general you make of this place what you put in. And for all the users you dislike and see around you’ll get plenty that you see around and like, and it’s cool when you notice you keep interacting with the same people in positive ways

Millennials expect everything to have a tip

I’m a lot more comfortable with people knowing what my genitals look like than most people are and yet even I draw the line well before insurers or law enforcement get a peek

My friend names all her d&d characters after parts of the vulva, and it works shockingly well. Just name a man Vas Deferens

And yet she posted an upskirt of a trans woman to silence her. They say they don’t see us as women, but aside from comfort using assault they tend to attack us in ways associated with misogyny. A special class of women, certainly, but ultimately there’s a misogynistic character to it that I don’t see in how gay men are mistreated.

Yeah that’s a common conclusion transfeminists come to. And yeah, a lot of transmisogyny seems to come from the anger and confusion at the fact that we’re rejecting the more powerful social role (and body type) for one that they see as inferior in some way or that they recognize as having it harder.

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It did, and even before then there were ways to get the VA to do it, especially for trans men’s top surgery.

A lot of us join pre realization. It’s a way to “man up” both for trans women trying desperately to become enough of a man like they were “supposed to be” and a masculine career that conservative parents approve of for closeted trans men. Then, especially if you’re an officer, once you’re in and used to it it’s a career with great benefits including a full pension after 20 years and the alternative is often a full career change.

Oh also enlisting is a popular “career of last resort” for people struggling to function in society without any known disqualifying disabilities. Incidentally, a lot of trans people’s pre realization dysphoria leads to having no idea why you can’t just get your shit together and develop discipline. And since the military promises it’ll give you discipline it can be attractive, especially when combined with the prior paragraph.

It took me a long time to get that, but I really feel it. Like, don’t get me wrong, putting up a rainbow crosswalk doesn’t mean much if the government that does it is v coding trans prisoners, but the statement “these people had to fight for their rights, and we’re glad to call them our neighbors” is still important.

And hell stuff like this adds to the vibes in the same way having a bunch of Chinese aesthetic in Chinatown does. Yeah, you should make the gayborhood feel like it. And while you’re at it hire black artists to help beautify the blacker parts of town. I actually used to live in a neighborhood with a ton of black art and it absolutely made it a nicer place to live, even as a white person.

Fortunately we’re not at risk of a deflationary spiral

But fr the debt is still obligation to the future, it’s delayed inflation. It’s totally fine to be in debt for important things and things that are economic investments, taking on debt for a high speed rail line for example would be wise. But taking on debt to avoid taxes or cutting services is just committing to an inflationary spiral

If anything I would use the slash for zero. Maybe a dot in the middle for place differentiation, though that could make a slash irrelevant.

Ultimately Babylon was really really good at logistics and administration, and they did a great job with stuff like tracking the sky. But it was a very early civilization. It’s easy for us to give notes 4000 years later, but our modern mathematical notation is a product of international collaboration over a millennium by different civilizations that all produced great mathematicians. When we compare them to their contemporaries we can see that they were surprisingly forward thinking, being the only ones using place value in their geographical and temporal region.

Yep, my ex was giant and I wasn’t the first partner of hers to complain about it

That makes sense I’ve learned the “BPD stare” by having experiences that make it terrifying for me.

She’s also really representative of the tech world of the late 10s on. SBF was juicer in drama, but Holmes is wild in what she managed to get away with and how long it took before anyone noticed it wasn’t physically possible to do what she claimed

That said I’m always here for some pro Charisma Carpenter sentiment. She routinely stole the show on Buffy

Because they get laughed out of our bars

Talarico is the senate race I’m hoping for hardest. Paxton is a hate filled criminal psychopath who isn’t afraid to push for laws not even Nancy Mace would put her name next to. Talarico on the other hand seems pretty chill

Yeah I remember when my factory hired a young woman to head HR shortly after weed was legalized where I lived and she immediately got to ensuring we wouldn’t be punished for smoking. The stoners are rarely a problem, and you really don’t want to lose a bunch of people just because their mild drug of choice is fat soluble instead of water soluble

It does amuse me how I’ve had doctors and employers drug test me which only pushed me from weed to acid