I’m not lame so I won’t admit to anything. Anyone who asks me that (at a party) is an immediate red flag to me. “Hey we are all trying to unwind and have some fun, what could make that better? I KNOW! LET’S TALK ABOUT WORK!!!” ugh the worst people. Get me the fuck out of that party.
On one hand, I get it. I don’t really want to talk about work either. But on the other hand I can’t entirely blame some people if they work a lot that might be something that’s been floating around in their head or they’re just curious.
Fight it. Don’t be lame. Don’t let the conversation turn to mush. Say something shocking, open up about an out-of-left field belief you hold. Remember what fun feels like. Discussing work is never fun.
Say something shocking, open up about an out-of-left field belief you hold.
I’ve done that before and even in “oddball” places and its a bit of a dice roll on how positive of an effect it’ll have on the conversation. But then I have a lot of… extreme views.
The conversation continuing is fun. If I say something that makes them uncomfortable that tends to end the conversation. Depending on how extreme/strange the belief might even open some hostility.
That said, I agree with your sentiment anyway. Its probably worth the risk just to avoid the more “sad but safe” questions like work, weather, etc.
I’m not lame so I won’t admit to anything. Anyone who asks me that (at a party) is an immediate red flag to me. “Hey we are all trying to unwind and have some fun, what could make that better? I KNOW! LET’S TALK ABOUT WORK!!!” ugh the worst people. Get me the fuck out of that party.
On one hand, I get it. I don’t really want to talk about work either. But on the other hand I can’t entirely blame some people if they work a lot that might be something that’s been floating around in their head or they’re just curious.
Fight it. Don’t be lame. Don’t let the conversation turn to mush. Say something shocking, open up about an out-of-left field belief you hold. Remember what fun feels like. Discussing work is never fun.
Some people you encounter have interesting jobs that they truly enjoy. Engaging them on that subject can yield interesting conversations.
IMHO rarely yes - but most often a dull, dreary bore of a conversation where I turn into homer:
I’ve done that before and even in “oddball” places and its a bit of a dice roll on how positive of an effect it’ll have on the conversation. But then I have a lot of… extreme views.
Fuck yeah! Be that person, hell, be a little selfish - make the fun for yourself first and foremost.
The conversation continuing is fun. If I say something that makes them uncomfortable that tends to end the conversation. Depending on how extreme/strange the belief might even open some hostility.
That said, I agree with your sentiment anyway. Its probably worth the risk just to avoid the more “sad but safe” questions like work, weather, etc.