there is a
maleloneliness epidemicFTFY
“All lives matter”
yes, i am a fascist bastard, how have you noticed? was it because i frequent a niche leftist-leaning decentralized social media, or because i have a penguin on my profile picture referring a left-associated group of operating systems that has much of it’s community ramble about how terrible corporatism is?
There is so much to unpack here. I sincerely hope you have a therapist.
Wow.
thanks
Yeah, that’s not at all what the male loneliness thing is about at all. Was the point of your meme to make fun of how ignorant people are about this particular issue for men or were you trying to suggest the issue is invalid and the result of misogynistic assholes? Because if it’s the latter I think you just demonstrated your own ignorance and should probably spend some time trying to empathize more with men and educate yourself.
A second person I can ask. What’s the epidemic then? If it’s not men failing to meet some pretty basic standards for empathy and kindness, what is it?
It’s complicated because there are a variety of contributing factors and it’s not the same for every lonely man. There are some societal mores in certain demographics (e.g. urban Black men, traditional Hispanic men, traditional Southern White men) where men are expected to not talk about emotional pain or express it only in anger. They’re expected to solve all of their own problems and even complaining about a problem you’re struggling to solve makes you look weak to your peers. These kinds of societal forces cut men off from emotional support even when they have friends and makes them feel alone and abandoned even though they have people in their lives.
Then there’s stuff like boys/men getting addicted to video games and not socializing enough in person with people to create friendships groups outside of discord, that kind of thing. Like I said, it’s multifaceted. But it’s no joke and it’s not about misogyny.
Being taught to hide your emotions is part of my point. It stunts emotional growth and then they struggle to communicate or understand feelings. Which I believe leads to treating other people like objects.
I’m sorry, but that’s just not true. Being taught to hide your feelings doesn’t necessarily stunt emotional growth, and even if emotional growth is stunted, that doesn’t necessarily lead to treating other people like objects. You’re making a lot of assumptions about how people mature under these conditions. Do you have any professional sources to back this up or is it just your personal view of the topic?
I’m really struggling to get through this video. " Men are in a crisis and no one really cares"
The Fuckin feminists care. The patriarchy, and how it’s all been set up, is exactly the problem that caused all of this. The tight gender roles that need to fit certain models… That’s what feminism is here to fight.
Depends on your brand of feminism. Sounds like that’s about to become a no true Scottsman argument.
Where is all the care when I see women choosing the bear? Where is all the care when women go on TV saying men are useless and we don’t need men then laughing about it? What specifically are you talking about when you say the patriarchy is to blame? Cuz that just sounds like things I hear in the video that you struggled to get through.
Men are lonely? That’s men’s fault! Cool, guess I’ll go kick my own ass? This is why the left is completely losing men as a demographic.
And I’m saying this all as a registered Democrat in a loving relationship who is not lonely.
And I’ve said this all before the election, got down voted for it, and then lo and behold a lot of men shifted to Trump, especially in the younger demos, which have traditionally been more progressive.
You ask the average man if they feel feminists care about them and I doubt you’ll get a favorable response.
“where is the care when women are talking about themselves and their problems”
The care is when they point out that gender roles are stupid and that everyone should go to therapy.
So a video gets linked filled with examples of people who would proudly claim to be feminist demonstrate zero empathy for men, you somehow struggled to watch it for some unknown reason (maybe because it made you uncomfortable because it doesn’t fit your mental narrative) and instead of acknowledging the existence of these bad actors in your golden concept of gender eradicating feminism, you simply blame men for not being in therapy.
You are the exact problem I’m describing on the left. We’re never winning another election at this point if we’re going to be this clueless and obstinate.
Chef’s kiss.
I mean it almost sounds like an abusive relationship to me. Look what you made me do! I wouldn’t have said that if you had more therapy!
And no, I didn’t hear any of those people arguing men are useless and unnecessary arguing for the eradication of gender norms. Just the eradication of men in general.
I guess I can’t be accountable for the people claiming to be feminists who are actually misandrists. And you can’t be accountable for the anti-lonliness folks who are actually misogynists.
The comments on this one really highlights Lemmy’s demographics. You can take the men out of reddit but you can’t take the reddit out of men lmao
In the US, women couldn’t get credit cards without a co-signer until 1974.
Historically, women had to have a man support them if they wanted options other than poverty. Your grandma probably didn’t have many other options - it might have worked well for her, but that wasn’t a choice made freely.
I think a lot of this is that relationships are a choice now. You have to be someone that someone wants to be with. This is a good thing, but it’s also a hard thing.
It sucks to be lonely and not get laid, but at the same time no one owes you sex or attention.
Feminism allowed women to become fulfilled all on their own, taking on those “typically masculine” traits of making money, doing tougher work around the house, creating stability, etc. while also maintaining the ability to have the more feminine traits like emotional support through friendships, self-care, etc. Men haven’t been socially afforded the same expansion, mostly held back by other men. Like God forbid a guy have a skin care routine, or decorate his home all on his own, that’s gay!
mostly held back by other men
That’s an important thing to note. Patriarchy hurts men, just in a different way. If women are objects, then not being able to “possess” enough or any is a marker of failure.
I’m the kind of radical feminist that would like to get rid of gender entirely tbh. I like being a man, but I kind of want it to be something we do for fun rather than force it on people.
I think a lot of men have to stop trying to live up to some other guys definition of masculinity.
Repost of https://lemmy.world/post/28076707
Probably the same bot farm
Yeah the dude in my old neighborhood who drove a Dodge RAM but rearranged the letters so it said “WAR” on the tailgate instead, and had a bumper sticker that said “KILL EVERYTHING” in that script that’s like, “badass Gothic tribal” but in reality is just floral minus the actual flowers… Not all clown cars are smol
Death of third places and the tech takeover of social interaction is why men and women seem to hate each other now. We don’t have much opportunity to meet romantically in person and the online space pits extremists against each other until all the regular people believe that’s just the way it is in real life too.
Can’t overlook that women being, for the most part, economically equal for the first time ever gives them more opportunity to choose as well.
“Men are terrible and will hurt you because this is lifetime.”
More sociological insights from the keen minds who tell us you need a small penis to like sports cars.
