• scarabic@lemmy.worldEnglish
    29·
    1 year ago

    It’s a delicate balance. On the one hand you want to invest all the time and energy you can to raise kids well so they don’t end up Republicans. But you also have to be careful not to spoil them with gifts from their elders which they’ll just take for granted, because at that point they are already Republicans.

    • Baguette@lemmy.blahaj.zone
      9·
      1 year ago

      Tbh if you return the book the library will usually just waive the late fee because they really just want their book back and nothing more

    • zalgotext@sh.itjust.works
      8·
      1 year ago

      Children should learn that actions come with consequences, and I can’t really think of a more low-stakes* way to teach that than library return deadlines

  • Uriel238 [all pronouns]@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
    3·
    1 year ago

    When he’s a teen he’s going to (likely) be super horny and angry, and most people are going find him annoying. In ancient, ancient, ancient times, this is when he’d go on walkabout, live off the land and eventually steal a girl from another tribe, a) we’ve stopped doing that, instead letting him go through adolescence at home, and b) Our post-Christian (post-Paulean) culture thinks sex is icky and he’s a perv for being too horny to learn math.

    This is when he’ll be tempted into the incel movement, especially if his school hits him with no sex ed, or abstinence-only sex ed (which is still a plague in the US). You’ll have to teach him boldly and candidly, or talk to Planned Parenthood about a way to explain everything from flirting to courtship to consent to protection.

    I haven’t had the teenage girl experience, but I’ve heard it’s super easy and super arbitrary for her to be branded a slut. The whole patriarchal system is against her, so if she seems to have either a brain or ambition, her teachers, family, ministers and police officers will peg her as a feminist and future-childless-cat-lady. On the other hand, if she wants to be a tradwife (or pretends to) then she’ll be seen as boring.

    Also when she’s in her mid teens, she’ll be intolerably cranky, and it’ll be very easy to want her to get managed by the other parent or go away or something.

  • ZeffSyde@lemmy.world
    3·
    1 year ago

    I don’t have a child, but, were I cursed with one, I would abandon them in the Z drawer of the card file and let them sort life out, just like my sperm donor did to me.

    Dewey Decimal or death.

  • rhvg@lemmy.world
    1·
    1 year ago

    Kids should be given knowledge and opportunity to decide their own fate. I’m fine they decide to maga or kill each other or end the human species what so ever.

    • khannie@lemmy.worldEnglish
      7·
      1 year ago

      The first sentence is solid reasoning. If you just add a sprinkle of empathy to their learning process the second sentence won’t happen.

      It’s easier said than done. Honestly.

    • Hanrahan@slrpnk.netEnglish
      3·
      1 year ago

      Indeeed so we shoud start by never teaching indoctrinating kids religion.

      Once they’re 18 they can take up whatever woo woo shit they want, be it astrology, christian, muslim, or economics for that matter.

    • curbstickle@lemmy.dbzer0.com
      6·
      1 year ago

      TONS.

      My local library is about half for under 12, a quarter or the space for teens, and then the last quarter is a split of nonfiction and fiction for adults.

      So if you go as an adult without a plan or a request that came in, you may not find much other than the librarians latest rec or the newest additions rack.

      For kids though, my local library is incredible. Reading nooks, educational play areas for the little ones, etc. Its wonderful.

      My oldest is getting anywhere from 6-8 books a week right now, she’s going into 2nd grade. Libraries are awesome.

      • Victor@lemmy.world
        2·
        1 year ago

        I was just being a bit facetious. Referring to the fact that books with educational material seem to feel threatening to the current administration and the leaders of some states.

        I know there are still books in libraries. 😁

        • curbstickle@lemmy.dbzer0.com
          2·
          1 year ago

          Gotcha, there are some folks out there who think its basically a blockbuster with a computer lab these days, so figured I’d comment all the same.

          Its a resource too few take advantage of IMO…