• glimse@lemmy.world
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    Lemon is right…but not because they have medical problems. I’m left as hell but I’d get so annoyed if an interview candidate snapped back like that. I’d think “this person is going to escalate any minor inconvenience”

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      Lemon is right…but not because they have medical problems.

      It’s because they have boundaries.

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        No, it’s because of how they choose to respond to a tiny bit of friction.

        They’re the type of person who wouldn’t take 2 minutes to help you with something that’s not explicitly outlined in their job description.

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          They’re the type of person who wouldn’t take 2 minutes to help you with something that’s not explicitly outlined in their job description.

          Yeah.

          Boundaries.

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                Someone who thinks helping out with something is “being taken advantage of”

                Someone with a persecution complex.

                Professional victim.

                The type of person called their mom hitler growing up because she told you to clean your room.

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                  30 days ago

                  Someone who thinks helping out with something is “being taken advantage of”

                  Someone who thinks that working off the clock is “helping out with something.”

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                    I’m a bit embarrassed…I thought you were talking to me and the point I was making.

                    So what else did the strawman say that you want to get mad about?

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                Helping out your coworkers on a one-off thing is just a thing normal people do. People like you are insufferable

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                    30 days ago

                    Your replies make me think you’ve never had a job with coworkers. You’re so caught up in the anti-capitalist mindset and apparently don’t realize there’s a HUMAN BEING struggling.

                    Just let someone struggle for an hour instead of taking 2 minutes to help. That’s how we do things here on the left, right?

                    Get a grip, man. Join us in the real world.

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      I would hate to be interviewed by you, asking for respect of medical privacy is “snapping back”? No wonder it sucks so fucking much to find a new job.

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        Legalese style “I will not be discussing this matter any further” in an interview does give off future lawsuit vibes.

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          Yeah, a much more normal way to say that is “I was dealing with a medical condition. It’s no longer an issue, but it’s a bit personal, so I’d prefer if we didn’t get into more than that.”

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            I wouldn’t even say that much. Any interviewer asking about a ‘gap in my resume’ is already coming off to me as a micromanaging cunt.

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          I mean, you asking to explain my medical history is lawsuit vibes.

          “I didn’t know this gap was for medical reasons” Why the fuck are you asking about a gap in my work history in the first place? What I did 5 years ago is irrelevant to this interview today.

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        It’s so weird to draw weapons in response to that. Do you really always assume the absolute worst intent when someone asks open-ended questions? If so, it’s hard to feel bad for you. You are one of the worst kinds of coworkers to have.

        “Hey tocopherol, do anything fun this weekend?”

        “How I spend my weekends is none of your business and I’m offended that you even though asking was appropriate!”

        “Ok dude have fun sitting in your car at lunch”

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          What are you talking about? You’re the one assuming the worst and being weird by not respecting a simple request in an interview! You just told me you assume they are going to escalate minor inconveniences because they requested basic respect.

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            Throwing a boilerplate legal defense in response to a question that’s most likely being asked casually is a total tone shift. No one’s going to think, “wow, this person really knows their rights!”

            It almost makes you sound guilty of something. Preemptively defensive when you haven’t been pressed in the slightest

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              I didn’t assume it had to be stated like a legal disclaimer, whatever kind of response a person makes it’s good to match the interviewers tone. I agree with you that you don’t want to come off confrontational, I didn’t read it that way.

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                But you’re replying in a comment chain that’s talking about phrasing it the way that was quoted.

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          A professional interview in which personal questions are being asked inappropriately is not even close to friendly banter between co-workers.

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            It’s the same type of person ready to pick a fight over any perceived transgression. They pick stupid fights with their managers and make it a worse place to work for everyone.

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        Lots of people don’t struggle to find jobs. Maybe you could take 5min to reflect on why some people would call this “snapping back”, rather than post a snarky comment.

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      Yeah it’s much better to begin with a more polite “It was medical in nature and I’d prefer not to discuss it.” And only pull out the “hey, legally you can’t ask about my medical issues” if they continue.

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        Thank you. You’re one of the only people in my replies who gets what I’m saying lol

        Other people are acting like the interviewer is demanding answers.