• CobblerScholar@lemmy.world
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    29 days ago

    Parents bragging about their kids is really sweet actually. Just as long as its about each kid individually and not like some weird collectors complex

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      28 days ago

      In the ye olden times, we’d rejoice over a successful birth, but modern medical care means that preganancy and birth is at its least fatalistic.

      People had reasons to celebrate birth pre-1800s. Now, well…

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      It can be sweet, or it can be icky.

      If the parent likes the kid for who they are, and is just happy to have a great relationship with another independent human, that’s great.

      But, sometimes the parents are obsessed with having a kid who they can mould in their own image. They insist, for example, that the kid become amazing at football, because they never made it as a football player but through their kid they can live their own dreams vicariously.

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      25 days ago

      My mother in law introducing herself as a “mother of six” and each of her children by their number order. “This is my fourth!”

      😬😬😬

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        29 days ago

        Why is this really Ooo-coded, something Finn would say in Adventure Time. Almost like we adopted the language of the apocalypse because we are experiencing an apocalyptic extinction of human life from war, soon to be nukes, and global warming

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      29 days ago

      I swear to God that I will spit on the first person to try and communicate at me using these words. I will clear my nose.

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      29 days ago

      Shoulda told him “Way to go, you and your wife have now doubled your replacement value. Now unless you’re planning on losing half of them to plague, famine, and war, you’re literally contributing to doubling the population density.”

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    29 days ago

    Man, I thought I couldn’t agree harder than the audiophile meme a few minutes ago. I was wrong.

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      If they are actively going for a 4th, then he’s done something right. Raising 3 kids, with an unhelpful husband would be enough to put most women off having a 4th. Hell, even with a helpful husband!

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      29 days ago

      Why are you taking offense to someone saying your lifestyle sounds terrible to them? They’re not saying you must be unhappy, just that they don’t want to live that way.

      I don’t want kids, and I’m sure those with kids that they wanted are very happy, and I’m glad there are people for whom that is a happy life because it wouldn’t be to me.

      Gotta edit my comment to say I was totally being autistic and completely missed your joke on the first pass, my bad!

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    The scary thing is that it really seems to be the case that having a kid changes your brain, at least for most people. People who weren’t sure they wanted kids become completely different people who are absolutely obsessed with their kids.

    That’s probably a good thing from an evolutionary point of view, but it’s freakish to see it happen. It’s also sometimes a tragedy when it doesn’t happen and someone who was ambivalent about having kids is not thrilled with having a kid when it happens.