I’m very bad at networking. I blame DNS.
It says here you’ve got connectivity problems.
IMHO: The only way to win the game is to not play. Nobody takes the job title or their salary with them. Enjoy life, prepare for retirement and don’t get ass fucked by the stupid staus symbols everyone wants you to buy.
The only way to win the game is to not play
Sounds well and good until the “stable” job you thought you had goes belly-up because private equity took it over and gutted management, and you don’t want to start on ground floor and work your way up over another ten years at a new company and rather just find a similar position in a connected field or industry.
Social networking to get a new job is far more reliable than responding to job listings. Speaking from too much experience on the matter.
Speaking from experience on the opposite side, I’ve never networked for my career and have not been unemployed for any long stretch of time.
Mass apply to all relevant positions within distance in the field, tailored 3 versions of a resume and a basic editable cover letter (fucking hate those too but that’s another gripe). Get a few bites, investigate the company and salary ranges if possible, be upfront about expectations at the first interview and I’m usually in a job by the 10th or so company.
But I’m in tech (level 1 and 2, Service Desk and Tech Support roles) and have a B.A. in a completely unrelated field, so, your mileage may vary
That’s the lesson I learned with my credit cards. I took out a loan to pay them off and as soon as they were paid off, I closed them. The sugar is too sweet, and the goblin is ravenous. It’s too easy to use the credit card to acquire junk. Next thing you know, over 25% of your income is going toward credit cards, and you’ve got nothing to show for it.
I finally said fuck that shit. They need me more than I need them. It’s a shame the realization took so long.
The only way to win the game is to not play.
And you’re goddamned right.
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How do you meet people who can make you happy if you don’t do small talk? That’s literally how you meet people
You can always infodump, if they stick around they’re a keeper.
High stakes gambling isn’t for the weak of heart
Only keeping people around who ignore huge red flags, huh
Damn having an interest while ND is a redflag now?
Bringing up an interest you have is small talk. Dumping is a red flag
Personally I find that attitude a redflag. I love hearing passionate people speak.
You weren’t talking about people speaking passionately, you’re talking about verbally dumping on people
Erika Sanborne, autistic educator and researcher, describes it as “enthusiastically communicating a large quantity of words, with an inordinate amount of detail, about one super interesting category of information, all at once, interpersonally.” Info dumping is often called a love language because it’s a way for autistic individuals to express what they are passionate about with those they care about most.
https://autismawarenesscentre.com/what-is-autistic-info-dumping/
Come again?
Everybody has issues they need to work on, if you can talk openly about those “red flagish” issues, maybe its not that hard to be around you…
No, that’s how you meet people. That’s not the only way to meet people.
I’ve seen the same people around the different skate spots or climbing gyms. I see them try and fail to land some trick a hundred times, or try and fail some boulder a hundred times. Then I see them make it for the first time and I shout hell yeah Tom. They do the same for me. By law you’re now homies.
Roll up to your local weekly Street Fighter tournament. Lose against the same Guile player a dozen times in a row. Every week ask him for some friendly matches til you learn to beat Guile. Fist bump them once you get a win. By law you’re now homies.
Walk down the local haunted railroad track on a friday night. Get scared by some local teens who jump out at you. Spot someone else down the rail who’s walking your way. Hide back in the bush with the teens and wait to jump scare the next passerby. You are all blood-bound as homies.
Pick up some nerf guns off craigslist for $10 on your way to work or whatever. Spot the nearest person who looks like they’d play softball and shoot a dart at them. Softball Lesbians love nerf wars. Throw them a gun. Start a nerf war on the sidewalk. You’ve acquired a war homie.
Go to a local makerspace/workshop. Build some RF Drum Sticks that bang on a real drum 5 feet away when you waggle them in the air. Ask people to play it while you “Calibrate the sticks”. Watch them pop off. You’re now band mates.
I hate talking to people but I love doing stuff. This is all real shit that’s gotten me some friends without really talking to them. You just gotta do things in your free time. For every 10 nights you go do some dumb fun shit on your own only one of those nights leads to you finding someone who’s down to clown but that’s alright. It’s a thousand times better than the people you make friends with by talking about holiday plans with Marvin from Accounting. No hate to Marvin.
I met my wife at a roller disco, just skating around messing about, shared joy at an activity. We were 15 and dated for a few years subsequently. Didn’t work out then, but years later, went back due to younger sibs and relived a bit of youth, there we were again. Rest is history.
LinkedIn lunatics can’t understand this. If your whole work culture revolves around who you network with and how your profile looks and not mutual respect then I am happy to work for someone else. Honestly the people that crave power the most are almost always the ones that should not be in charge of anything. I’m fortunate to have an awesome job and totally understand you might need to take a shit job just to get by but the lunatics don’t understand that it doesn’t have to be this way.
After spending a year unemployed, and finally getting reemployed through Linkedin social networking I had worked on for years previously, it is sadly a very powerful tool in the continued effort to “not starve to death” in the modern world.
Lemmy: I do not have social skills and view anyone who does as fake.
It’s actually a perfectly fine metaphor, portraying themselves as ego, the villain who’s obsessed with his world view being correct.
You should really Smalltalk
if that’s not brian david gilbert imma riot
(it wasn’t)
I will always network
This is me at work.
