also men: “WE HAVE A LONELINESS EPIDEMIC!”
Yes. That’s a big part of what’s going on. A lot of men, particularly poor and middle class, have no real culture of interaction and have been told they are worth the money they make a month and nothing else.
Keep in mind they call each other bro because in 45 years they don’t even know each others names since they met.
Would die for each other tho.
Girl boring guy quirky.
And it’s ultimately insulting to men too, like the idea of being excited to share personal news is somehow anathema to the male experience.
I don’t know how serious one has to take themselves to find this “ultimately insulting”. It’s a silly meme and it’s funny because most men can relate to it.
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Low maintenance friendships are the best ships 🛳️
I’m no psychoanalyst but it sounds like someone is insecure in their ability to love and be loved and would prefer to guarantee a balanced reciprocity of low effort on both sides.
I enjoyed the stereotype to laugh it but I feel obligated to state one thing. Relationships require maintenance, that’s it regardless of boy or girl. Sure some people might say hi back but that doesn’t mean they’re a friend.
True, but I also don’t want to be friends with you if you get upset because I’m not constantly sharing my whole life story with you at all times.
I’ve had my share of high maintenance friends, and I burn out so quick.
But if you’re an incel and a Chad says “hi” back then yeah, it’s a big deal for those weirdos
He is gay, married another bro.
That’s the least possible gay thing he could do.
How about transitioning to a woman, then marrying their female best friend? I feel like that would at least be slightly less gay
As a woman, yeah i totally accidentally told my bros I got married a few years after the fact. In my defense we eloped and my friends and I sometimes go a few years without talking much
Shit, that reminds me I should text my best friend, he might be a father by now.
When was the last time you texted him?
It’s probably been two years. Ever since he got married and moved out of town this has been normal for us. Also he works during the day and I work during the night so it’s difficult to find a good time to talk.
Uh just the standard interval, 10 years ago
Most of the comments share my distain for this sexist shit “humor.” So where are the over 500 upvotes coming from? Who likes this shit?
I think it is funny. I enjoyed it because like most good humor, it is a playful exaggeration on patterns that exist on real life. Sometimes those patterns break along racial or gendered lines, and that’s ok. You’re not a bad person if you think it’s funny. I get laughs out of lighthearted humor that pokes fun at men as well.
Are they really patterns, though? Or is it confirmation bias?
Even early psychological studies from 100+ years ago found that women, on average, feel and react to emotional stresses the same way as men. There are 100+ year old studies on PMS that say women, on average, don’t express more anger or sadness prior to or while on a period - and yet we still get hysterical women PMSing memes.
Media can make us see patterns that aren’t there. Media can change the way people view the world around them and affect how they behave.
I think it is a trend that men in general are less inquisitive about each other’s personal lives and discuss them less often, yes. I don’t think that’s an inherently good or bad thing but I think it’s true. Also, it’s worth noting that the “PMS mood swings are a social construct” theory is still listed as an “Alternative Theory” on the Wikipedia page and the handful of women I’ve talked to about it have all said no, the mood swings are definitely real.
Don’t let me get in the way of what you think, or what wikipedia and other women have told you. I’m basing basing my comment on the psychology courses I’ve taken.
It’s important to note that research on PMS has been fraught with medical, historical and personal biases. This is a very well done article on why the issue is incredibly nuanced: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK565629/
The other reason this is a sore spot for me is because I am a woman who lived with undiagnosed mental and physical disorders for over ten years because my complaints were disregarded as menstrual symptoms. I was eager to internalize that because of prevalent media that pushes the idea of the hormone-driven, irrational female, without providing the basis for those claims.
As it turns out, being in a whole fuck lot of pain and having doctors tell you that’s normal can make someone pretty irritated.
Sorry, I don’t understand. Were you experiencing severe pain and mental symptoms related to your menstrual cycle? If so, why would you be arguing against the notion that PMS symptoms are real? If anything I would think telling women “nope sorry, your perceived symptoms are all in your head, that is just a patriarchal myth that you’ve internalized” is more condescending than saying that PMS symptoms are real.
I feel like you need to read my comment and the link provided again.
I’m gonna be honest I didn’t read that entire chapter but I think I get the gist of it. King posits that PMS is falsely understood to be a primarily mental/mood-related condition due to the underlying sexist belief that women are fundamentally irrational and overly emotional. Sure, no disagreement there. PMS has sort of become a meme and a cultural phenomenon, which may cause women and men both to play up the mood swing side of it. With that said, “The chief complaint is one or more of the emotional symptoms associated with PMS. Irritability, tension, or unhappiness are typical emotional symptoms”. According again to Wikipedia which in my experience is more accurate than any single source or anecdote.
Chill man. It’s a meme
A sexist meme. What’s your point? Is sexism okay as long as it uses these meme faces and is posted in a meme subs?
Light hearted not so sexist memes are fine and accepted by everyone
It’s not that deep
This is neither light hearted nor accepted by everyone, hence the existence of this conversation. If it’s satire it’s not obvious at all.
If you think this isn’t light hearted meme then I don’t know man. I guess you never opened instagram, reddit or any other social media
It sarcastically describes my life as a man, especially when I try to be the top two people but every other man wants to be the bottom two. The title might glorify it but we aren’t.
Who likes this shit?
People with a sense of humor who don’t get offended each time wind blows.
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This is something I don’t like about guys, as a guy.
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This idea that any kind of relationship should be effortless and easy is, frankly, incredibly absurd. Good relationships (of which friendships are) take real effort and work. If you don’t want to put that work in to it then you need a pet rock, not a friend.
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once you’ve made friends for life, they stick
People drift apart. Actually making the effort to communicate and meet up occasionally is important for maintaining those relationships. If you’re not in the place where you’re can stay aware of major life changes (marriage, divorce, kids, major career changes, moves between cities, major illness or injury, deaths in family, etc.), were you really “friends for life”?
Even making brunch plans in my 40s requires consulting a calendar. That naturally shrinks the number of close friends in the mix. I’m closer with my friends who live close than the ones who live far, simply out of inertia, that maintaining those relationships takes less effort.
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You described a lot of effort on your end to keep that relationship going. That’s what I mean. Relationships require maintenance.
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Did he just assume his friends’ partner’s gender?
This is very real, I felt this
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