Oh and as for reasoning why, another few points, all projects I’ve been in just kept being worked on and had constantly changing requirements. There was no real need to plan very much except maybe some rough estimations, that were allowed to be wrong.

There were like some very rough aspects of scrum in professional development, but only in the sense that we’d talk about what we’d like to do in the next sprint, we didn’t do multiple plannings or estimations or cared about our velocity or did retrospectives often, and even the sprints were adjusted to last longer or shorter based on what we’re going to do, there were a couple of roles people should have missing, and idk what. In the end, the resulting system was just something in the direction of agile/kanban, work just came in, and was handled based on some prioritizing by someone.

My personal projects could be really close to waterfall as well, I thought about a problem, made a rough plan on how to solve it, then just kept solving until I was done. Open source projects, no one organized anything, everyone just works on whatever they like.

Basically, you’re the expert in software development paradigms, I’m just a developer that works on problems with code until solved, either given to me by someone or myself. The only ones who care about the paradigm are the business guys who wanna plan some shit.

I mean, they already said they’re being harassed.

In general and another situation, I can fully see how someone might add someone to group chat in a way of “hey guys I found another one to add to our chat, their kink is to act all indignant about noticing us sexting, have fun”.

I already said my most likely scenario is one person playing two sides.

The paradigm in my work life I followed most of the time on most projects is “do whatever the project manager decides is important at the moment”. I’m not aware of it having a particular name. Technically, they might call it scrum or something else, but really it’s not even close to any of these labels. It really was always just “whatever sounds good to them at the time”. I guess you could call it “agile”, but not by choice necessarily. Please ask more questions on this or provide more options for me to choose if you want a better answer.

On my personal projects, I follow the “start programming and see what comes out at the end of it” paradigm, I’m also not aware of it having a particular label.

Edit: sorry other questions. Type of software is desktop application, web applications, browser extensions, game modifications. And for why these particular paradigms were chosen, they were chosen because a customer/user wants to be happy and doesn’t care about what paradigm is used, only the result. As such, the paradigm essentially follows some humans’ whims, which mostly doesn’t make sense and definitely is nothing “formal” at all.

I don’t know the app, but if they’re literally harassing you, this might also just be someone with two accounts talking with themselves.

If they’re different people… “Friends” is just a label. It means “people being friendly with each other, helping each other out in a mutually beneficial relationship, not sexually involved”. The “not sexually involved” part is usually implied because if they were sexually involved, you’d call them something else, “partners” or “fuck buddy” or similar. But if someone is sexually open, not doing the standard “partnership/relationship” thing often or at all, then they might just drop the additional description of “friend” to have the property “not sexually involved”. It is literally called “friend with benefits” often. So yes, “friends”, however someone defines that label, may include talking like this.

What you’re really asking is “in usual society, do friends usually talk like this?”, to which the answer is no. But you’re also implying that friends talking like this, or someone having a slightly different definition of “friend”, is somehow a bad thing (“gross”). Which it is not, in a consensual relationship, anything goes. The bad thing is the “harassing you” part. There is no need for you to socially shame their sexual behavior by calling it publicly “gross”, the “harassing you” part is already shameful enough. I would focus on your boundaries and enforcing them, you are fully in your right to do that, and not focus on their behavior with other people.

I agree with you conceptually. Society is bonkers.

However, it is possible for everyone to build themselves a subset of society that is adapted to them. It is possible for everyone to build a community, a group of friends, that share values. No matter how “out there” it is.

And let me tell you, what can be read from you is quite “out there”. If you go to a scientist/doctor and talk about magic, it can be easily expected for them to dismiss your words. I’m not saying that’s right of them. Magic can or can not exist. I’m talking about knowing reality, and reality is that if you talk about magic in front of scientifically minded individuals, your words will likely be dismissed. You will likely make this experience again with the same approach, and if you want people to listen, you have to veil your true beliefs, so what you say is acceptable to them. This is a sad state of affairs, I certainly agree, but people are not very open-minded usually, and you have to adapt your approach to whoever you talk with.

I’m not saying anything you think is either right or wrong. The only thing I would like to say is that you seem like you “know” more than you actually can know. We should always come from a point of “not knowing” by default, and only believe/know something if we can be very very sure about it. “Not knowing” is very scary though, it’s very hard to “not know”. I can always understand the need for explanations. But clutching to explanations based on fear leads to missing scrutiny of beliefs, leading to possibly wrong beliefs. Holding wrong beliefs is very problematic, as any prediction you make can be off, leading you to make wrong decisions.

In any case, I wish you well, hope you can find people to truly listen to you, and hope that you can also truly listen to people.

I’m weird as fuck. Other people who are as weird as fuck as me are possible to be found, but a small community makes it unlikely if not impossible. People as weird as me can only really be found in a big enough place with enough people.

And yeah, there’s also just much more to do than in a smaller town. Taking 30-45 minutes to arrive at something you wanna do is a significant hurdle compared to 5-10 minutes.

I’m a guy. I’m using dating apps often (poly) and have found multiple people that I’m currently dating. One person I met there just moved in with me a few weeks ago.

These people I found are the most wonderful I ever met. They’re kind, self-aware, empathetic and aware of the potential pitfalls of these apps.

I like only women I actually like. I have not paid for it. The women I met aren’t doing it for validation.

Yet everything you said is also completely true. But that’s simply because dating apps reflect the real world, you get, in a very small percentage, good people actually worth talking to, and a large majority of people only wanting validation or will say anything for quick sex. Just like you get in real life. Most people in real life are also not worth talking to.

I fully concede that the negative aspects of people are enhanced or at least more visible in dating apps. However, that’s just it, it’s more pronounced, not actually fundamentally different.

Because “basic makeup pasted fake ass girls” are also people, they don’t deserve any more hate or dislike than anyone else based on this alone. It can not be your type, but the original person talking about this obviously had a relatively intense dislike/resentment.

I mean, dating apps are also just “real world behavior”, we don’t suddenly leave the real world by picking up a phone.

The effect is just much much more pronounced on dating apps because of logistics, you can’t get hit on by 100 of the hottest guys in your area in 5 minutes in real life, maybe you get hit on by 20 guys the whole evening. And those 20 guys are a local dating pool, which may not necessarily include the 20 hottest guys out of the whole area, so the hottest one of the 20 may still be average.

Or girls who put some effort into their appearance? Fuck those whores trying to look attractive am I right?!

An average guy who shoots his shot is practically already above average. Most don’t shoot their shot, or very very timidly with maximum safety

If there’s too little content, that likely means that you spend more than a couple of hours on reddit. Yep, there’s not enough content to fill your day here. But also, maybe there shouldn’t be. If you go on here like max 1hr each day, you won’t notice a difference. Anything more, yeah, you’re “missing” content. But why spend more than 1hr daily here?..

But what do you actually need in the first place? I mean it, all the stuff you mentioned I’ve never touched on a phone, how much worse would your life be without them?

You definitely don’t need any programming learning apps to learn programming, I know that because I’ve personally done it. AI chats serve what purpose? Can’t you chat with real people? Art generators for what? What did you do before you were able to generate art? Audio and video editing on a phone means you can’t be doing this professionally, what are you actually editing? Why not do it on an older laptop with larger screen that actually has access to open source apps that do this properly and almost as good as professional proprietary software?

Video and audio editing on a phone honestly sounds terrible 🤣

It’s reddit, but yes, home gym is perfectly fine to become shredded

https://www.reddit.com/r/bodyweightfitness/wiki/kb/recommended_routine/

I have the Aurora store on my /e/os so I can get apps that are on Play Store too. Haven’t noticed any difference in experience except that well, no Play Store is installed.