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Cake day: August 10th, 2025

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  • Of couse women should try to stay safe. Just like men. But there are differences.

    If you apply the same broad definition of violence to both men and women, then men are much more likely to get attacked and they’re much more likely to not survive the attack. This different experience leads to a different mindset, with the majority of women being unarmed (because they feel safe) and the majority of men being armed (because they don’t feel safe). Men have a problem with understanding the female experience (Sexual harassment, rape) and women have a problem with understanding the male experience (Getting beaten to death or stabbed or shot because you did nothing more than looking at a guy or just for fun). Part of the different experience is help. Women may receive help which causes them to continue asking for help in future situations; men don’t receive help which causes them to shut down and stop asking (Asking for help has pretty much the opposite effect for men, it makes things even worse). A very different experience which leads to a different mindset. Which makes it so hard for women and men to understand each other. Activism and media helped to shine a light on the female experience. Which is a good thing. But it gets ridiculous really fast when women say things like “Oh yeah, men just go relaxed and safe at night or to the grocery store or alone to a festival”. Women have no idea. If they had, they wouldn’t wonder why we men need to be armed at all times, even if we just go to the grocery store to get some milk. And they wouldn’t wonder why we men don’t ask for help in so many situations.

    And no. The majority of men (which I’m part of) is not friends with predators. We are forced to tolerate them. Because they’re our coworkers, our bosses, or the partners of our sisters or daughters, or part of the political party which we consider to be the lesser evil - they’re everywhere. We have to live with them.


  • We didn’t have much better haircuts back then either. But we had more diversity. This is also one of those things I miss, the countless subcultures which led to interesting social dynamics. When was the last time you saw punks and hip hop enjoyers partying together in a park?

    I’m not trying to take space away from young people by any means. I actually tried the opposite. It didn’t work and I moved on.



  • Sharing hobbies is not what I would call chasing, that’s just basic social skills. Chasing is pretty much all the pick-up artist stuff. But honestly, I find people of today extremely boring, especially young people. The most complex hobby they have is doing workout to look fit and even that is done on a very superficial level. Nobody makes art anymore or is into philosophy or psychology. It’s all just about consuming memes and TikTok slop or pretending to be creative by using AI or joining the current virtue signaling/slacktivism hypetrain on social media. That’s why I prefer to talk to older people, you can sit down with them in a café and talk for hours about plenty of topics without ever looking at a smartphone. But it’s not easy to find them, they don’t go out much either for similar reasons. Society has changed a lot in the last decades and all I can do is to accept that and cherish those rare occasions.