If someone expects me to pay a massive amount of money on a first date, that woild be a dealbreaker for me. Why should I reinforce any traditional gender roles in a crumbling capitalistic society
I date. 80% of single women expect traditional gender role dating. the other 20% of women don’t date.
#1 deal breaker women hvae with me is I don’t spend enough money on dates to impress them, even when it’s $100-300 dinners. They expect $500-1000 dinners, weekend get aways , and international vacations. all as part of the ‘dating’ process. because that is what social media has told them is what they ‘deserve’.
But are you interested in someone that wants this? Is that someone you want to have as a partner?
If no, then there is no point in spending so much.
If yes, there is truly not really another way except spend a bunch.
Putting so much emphasis on money and wealth is a thing very popular in the manosphere and around social media. It isn’t that widespread in reality. It also depends on where you meet people. If you meet them at an expensive hobby meeting like golf or something, it’s pretty likely that they want someone who is willing to spend money.
Do you know women platonically? Maybe ask them what they want on dates(doesn’t mean you have to ask them out, just to get a different perspective), see if that matches what you perceive.
doesn’t mean they exist in abundance or in your area.
i’m sure some humble ice cream date lady exists for me, but she probably lives in another state. where I live women think you’re a jerk if you want to take them out on a cheap date, and if’s not a ‘nice’ date unless it’s $500 or less. and yes, they look at the tab and judge you by how much ‘spend’ you are putting out.
Straight up I went on a drinks to check how we vibe date last week, super simple, 5 beers total, two orders of wings as apps(so 12 wings), $80 before tipping $20. Not to mention the haircut I could’ve put off had I not had a date which was $60, and the gas I used getting there $5. Even if I tipped my personal minimum for a server at 20% that’s over $100. I don’t mind paying for a first date because it’s every woman is potentially putting their life on the line by meeting a man they don’t know alone for however long it lasts, but I used to could plan 2-3 first dates over a week, spend less, and get more food and drink.
Well yeah, you’re not it
Why do peacocks have such ridiculously inefficient feathers? Bird tail feathers can be as little as 1 inch long.
If someone expects me to pay a massive amount of money on a first date, that woild be a dealbreaker for me. Why should I reinforce any traditional gender roles in a crumbling capitalistic society
because it’s do that or date nobody.
I date. 80% of single women expect traditional gender role dating. the other 20% of women don’t date.
#1 deal breaker women hvae with me is I don’t spend enough money on dates to impress them, even when it’s $100-300 dinners. They expect $500-1000 dinners, weekend get aways , and international vacations. all as part of the ‘dating’ process. because that is what social media has told them is what they ‘deserve’.
But are you interested in someone that wants this? Is that someone you want to have as a partner?
If no, then there is no point in spending so much.
If yes, there is truly not really another way except spend a bunch.
Putting so much emphasis on money and wealth is a thing very popular in the manosphere and around social media. It isn’t that widespread in reality. It also depends on where you meet people. If you meet them at an expensive hobby meeting like golf or something, it’s pretty likely that they want someone who is willing to spend money.
Do you know women platonically? Maybe ask them what they want on dates(doesn’t mean you have to ask them out, just to get a different perspective), see if that matches what you perceive.
Different people exist
Cite your sources
doesn’t mean they exist in abundance or in your area.
i’m sure some humble ice cream date lady exists for me, but she probably lives in another state. where I live women think you’re a jerk if you want to take them out on a cheap date, and if’s not a ‘nice’ date unless it’s $500 or less. and yes, they look at the tab and judge you by how much ‘spend’ you are putting out.
I know, but it seems short sighted to me to accept only a single possibility for dating which involves spending a lot of money
Straight up I went on a drinks to check how we vibe date last week, super simple, 5 beers total, two orders of wings as apps(so 12 wings), $80 before tipping $20. Not to mention the haircut I could’ve put off had I not had a date which was $60, and the gas I used getting there $5. Even if I tipped my personal minimum for a server at 20% that’s over $100. I don’t mind paying for a first date because it’s every woman is potentially putting their life on the line by meeting a man they don’t know alone for however long it lasts, but I used to could plan 2-3 first dates over a week, spend less, and get more food and drink.