I’ve been told by my therapist I have the worst case she has ever seen. Yes I’m winning it ;)
Does therapy actually help you if you know what your problem is? Also knowing that they’re talking to you because it’s their job feels like the whole thing is a lie and a waste of time.
That’s just self sabotage talking. Knowing about a problem is step one and it’s what gets you in the door.
Just because you know you’ve got a broken pipe doesn’t mean you don’t need a plumber, just because you know your car is broken doesn’t mean you don’t need a mechanic, etc. There’s nothing wrong with someone helping you being a job. That doesn’t mean they won’t do that job.
The main point of therapy is to get you to look at your circumstances in different ways and provide you with coping skills you may not necessarily have developed. You may even be unaware of whatever current maladaptive coping mechanisms you’ve built up over years of just trying to survive. This is where outside professional perspective comes in handy.
However! That’s not to say therapy is a bulletproof process or that all therapists are good or that every therapist is a good fit for every person. I would liken it to finding your preferred barber or massage therapist or something. Sometimes you just got to try options till something works.
Yes. I knew (or at least thought I knew) what my problems were but needed help with figuring out what to do about them. Finally started seeing someone to help me with that and they did.
About it feeling fake: It’s their job to help, but I did feel the same at first and told them so. That helped them understand me better.
Most of my clients know why they are coming, it’s childhood (or other) trauma. That doesn’t mean they don’t get to have new insights on the topic. Also, while we talk, that’s not my main modality. We do EMDR and similar therapies that actually help people process the trauma. I’ve seen it change lives.
goes to her room and calls the FBI
