I once took a ferry from Alaska to Washington. 4 days in open ocean/international waters. There was a full dining hall, museum/library, and movie theatre on board. Plus all the cars underneath! There were cabins, but I just put my sleeping bag on the deck. Some people had little cots and some people tied up hammocks. $300 USD (i didnt have a car), plus I had to pay for food once I was on board. I’ve never been on a cruise, but I would do a long ferry ride again in a heartbeat
When I was a 15 year old girl and the 35 year old man that had been giving me attention all week ASKED if he could touch me, I was so excited and wanted it to happen.
I regret it now, and when I think about that man now, i think about what a sick and disgusting person he was. And I think about how I wish the adults in my life has protected little me better. But it wasn’t traumatizing or scary when it happened, and while I legally couldn’t consent, I mean… I consented as much as was possible. I thought I was cool and beautiful and grown up, because a handsome adult man thought I was pretty.
It’s complicated. I know now that it was wrong for that man to do that, but I’m trying not to hate myself for wanting it and liking it at the time. I do believe it was wrong and bad, but it’s hard to reconcile how I felt then vs how I feel now.
I thought it was James Franco until you said that.
Sabrina Carpenter curtain bangs
Glad I’m not the only one. I stopped counting at 50, and that was over 15 years ago, I’d be surprised if that number hasn’t tripled at this point.
I go to night school at community college and I pointed this shortcut out to the adjunct “professor” (not actually a professor) during a lecture the other day, and she said “oh you youngins with your computer tricks”. But she’s a year younger than me :') I’m just a nerd. And it’s not even a very advanced shortcut! Like idk how to use Excell and idk what “inspect element” means, I just get stresses abt losing my tabs.
Cute story.
I once told a bank i was going to spend a summer working in Alaska and not to be alarmed when my card started having transactions there. They said “okay!” Then they frozen my card after my first use and when I called them to see why (they didn’t call me) they said “suspicious activity on your card, it was used in Alaska!” Then on my return trip home, it was skimmed and used in NYC while I was on a bus in Arizona, I called the bank (again, they didn’t call me) and said hey there’s a weird charge on my card in NYC, but im in Arizona, and they said “huh weird, I guess we’ll freeze it if you want”.
Genuinely so happy your bank was so attentive to you. That’s not the normal. It is cruel and irresponsible to put restrictions on people’s food cards, especially the way the pedophile and his cronies are gutting government offices. It’s really hard to get in touch with someone from the EBT department, by design.
Say ive authorized my food card to be used in OR/WA. But what if I’m in Idaho for the weekend unexpectedly, but i need something to eat? What if I’m driving down to visit a relative in NoCal who is on a fixed income and doesnt have enough food for me and i want to pick up some milk and eggs once i get to california so i dont have to worry about keeping them cold? What if I live on the VT/MA border, so I authorize those states, but there’s something I need to do in New York, and going to a MA or VT grocery store after going all the way to NY to run an errand would be miles out of my way and I just want to go to the grocery store in NYS, but uh oh, I didn’t authorize that state and I can’t get a hold of anyone other than a robot on the phone at the ebt office and gas is five fucking dollars a gallon and I can’t afford to drive all over the tri state area, so I guess i’ll just be fucking hungry again today.
Stop trying to die on this hill. You’re suggestion is a bad idea, not because you’re a bad person (giving you thr botd, but losing faith fast) but because you lack the life experiences and have experienced privilege that clouds your judgement.
Maybe you’re a troll and I’m giving you exactly what you want, so this will be my last comment, but if you’re being genuine, please try to see things from someone else’s view. It is a bad idea to put restrictions on a food card. It’s for FOOD. The rates of theft and fraud are over represented by bad actors like the republicans.
That is not a sollution. That’s wildly restrictive, discriminatory, and overly complicated. Card skimming is theft, not fraud, for one thing, and that’s a problem that effects any card that runs through it, not just EBT. It’s the store’s problem for not providing a safe means to conduct transactions, and the burden shouldn’t be placed on the most vulnerable populations. Cash and even debit cards don’t need permission to be used outside of some designated range.
You’re out of touch and need to practice your empathy skills.
The fix for this should be simple: EBT funds should only be accessible in the state where the card was issued.>
Sucks for people like my mom then, who lives in a 600 person town on the border of two states, with no grocery stores or even gas stations for almost an hour north or east deepeer into “her” state, but with a Stop and Shop 11 minutes down the road in the neighbor state. But you’re right, we don’t want the poors being allowed to just roam free, ya?
Your opinion is ignorant of people’s real life situations.
I got sexually assaulted at work a year or so ago. Found out that more than one person had been bothered by the guy that touched me, but only verbally, he hadn’t touched anyone else. Told the HR lady, she launched an “investigation” and determined that, no, I didn’t get sexually assaulted, even tho 3 other women had a complaint about this guy talking dirty, and they had the beginning of my assault on camera. I was told he and I wouldn’t have to work together anymore “because we couldn’t get along”. But we continued to be assigned to the same tasks, often just the 2 of us alone in a wing of the warehouse.
I quit about 6 months after it happened for other reasons, but mentioned it in my exit interview. I said “I got sexually assaulted and you didn’t do anything about it” and this sociopath hr lady looked me in the face and said “we did our due diligence, that never happened”.
I’m lucky enough to be in my 30s and still have grandpa and his wife (my grandma by all accounts, but she doesn’t want to be called that because it makes her feel old). I was visiting with them recently and said “I still feel like a stupid teenager. I don’t feel like I’m an adult that knows what they’re doing, I’m just doing the best I can” and my 83 year old grandpa replied “sweetheart, I still feel like I’m in my 20s, I don’t think anyone ever really figures it out, no one knows how to be an adult”.
So i think the answer is: never
A little before that, i think? Maybe since The Crusades?
That’s how I feel about astrology. A horoscope is just a prompt for self reflection. But it’s fun when something feels woo woo or predictive or relatable because… its fun, idk. Its spooOoOoOoKy, it’s fun, it’s cute. Star charts are a skill you have to learn, it’s a hobby, it makes your brain work.
This has nothing to do with the original concept/internet meme of “girl dinner”, this is just salad and fries. Girl dinner is like… six olives and an entire sleeve of crackers with peanut butter directly out of the jar. Girl dinner is three slices of cheddar cheese, and an entire bag of baby carrots with hummus. If you have the emotional capacity to cook fries and mix a salad, that is not girl dinner, thats just dinner. This is capitalism using buzzwords without understanding what they’re saying and I’m irrationally annoyed by this one in particular because I fucking love Girl Dinner.
That is all. Hope your next meal is delicious and fulfilling xoxo
You might need a new therapist, which is okay. I haven’t been to therapy in over a decade, but when I used to go, I used to do things like this, and my therapist would interrupt and say “it sounds like you’re deflecting, do you think there’s a reason for that?” and try to get me to go in a different direction.
Just some unsolicited advice, have a good day xo
It’s called urtification (after the latin for nettles, Urtica dioica) , and humans have been doing it forever for exactly the reasons she mentioned.
Oh I think you’re spot on, thanks <3
Is there a word for bad nostalgia? Is it just regret? That doesn’t sound quite right. I thought i’d outgrown these feelings and put them away, but seeing this meme brings them back full force. The panic, the instant guilt, the sorrow that all comes with looking over the edge of the bed and seeing my lil cabbage patch kid all crumpled up on the floor. Even now I can feel the surge of adrenaline from leaning just a little too far out of bed, almost falling out myself. Just being able to reach one little ruffle on dolly’s jammies, just enough to snatch her off the ground, scoop her into bed, and sob and apologize, but deep down I know sorry will never be enough to make up for tossing her on the ground in the middle of the night.
Thanks for the morning cry. Probably gonna have to go to my mom’s house after work and see if I can find my old stuff.
Hope you get to feel some sunshine today xoxo
In fact, you are too young to realize it’s a 20 year old joke.