It is important to understand the context of who defined it.
It was mainly defined by queer people in various Latin communities as a self descriptor. LGBT acceptance within the various Spanish speaking communities in general is nowhere near universal, which explains why adoption of Latinx isn’t a thing.
I’d only use the descriptor if I knew that a lot of people there within earshot wanted to use that description.




Looking back on my childhood, I see that my Mom had anxiety issues and there were a lot of cases where she was white knuckling to get things done while having a panic attack. She had developed some maladaptive behaviors to deal with this, in part because mental health wasn’t a thing back when she grew up.
It sounds like your mom had her own maladaptive traits.