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  • I live on O’ahu (same island as these towns, but they are several miles away from where I live, on the North Shore). This is some serious stuff. I posted a few links over on my Mastodon account, but if you’re interested to learn more about what’s going on, please check out the Honolulu Civil Beat. They have several stories going on with excellent journalism–particularly an investigative story they did on this very dam that showed Dole (the pineapple company; also the family that led the overthrow of the Kingdom) has known for around FIFTY YEARS that this dam was unsafe but have kicked the can toward other entities to try and fix it rather than pay for it themselves.

    EDIT: Link to Civil Beat’s homepage. Probably the best journalistic outlet in Hawai’i: https://www.civilbeat.org/





  • For several years I lived adjacent to the Palm Beach world. Had an ex whose family was generationally wealthy and so I would hang out in the various clubs from time to time. Me? I grew up in the 'hood (part of that time in a double-wide trailer) with a single mother, had a lip ring, and would drive my pick-up that had no muffler up to the valets (both embarrassed and amused). I say all of that for context, I was a complete outsider to this world. And what I learned is that these people are so entrenched in their way of life that they can’t see anything different. They really don’t think anything at all about their privilege–because they’re not capable of doing so.

    For instance, my ex took her grandma to Target one day. Woman was in her 80s and had never stepped foot in a big-box type store. She found a purse that was like $18 and was just so delighted that such a thing existed. Meanwhile, their normal way of shopping for things was that, say, the local Ralph Lauren store would send a trunk over with all the latest styles, pre-tailored, and they would just send back what they didn’t want. She once lost her purse and when asked if there had been any money in it she replied “not that much, only about $800.”

    And the thing is that she was a lovely woman, very genuine, and I always felt welcome in her home. I came to realize that I couldn’t expect her to know what she didn’t know–AND the challenge that comes with people like her not being able to learn different perspectives. Her view of the world was vastly different than mine (like, I recall being five or six and my mom leaving a cart full of groceries at the counter because she had maxed out credit cards after losing her job).

    This is not to excuse this kind of behavior. Just to add perspective. These CAN (notice the emphasis on can) be good people, but are just so completely unaware of their privileges that when a journalist asks them “what’s the secret?” and they don’t bring up their heritage and connections, it might not be because they’re lying to us; it might be because they genuinely cannot see those things.

    I will also add that, after those years around such people, I came to feel sort of sorry for them. Their vision of the world was as narrow as the trailer park rednecks I knew. Many of them had traveled all over the world, but hadn’t really SEEN it, y’know. They were so closed off to the wider world that they couldn’t enjoy anything that wasn’t “safe.”