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Cake day: August 1st, 2026

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  • Ah gotcha. I cant relate to the feeling but I can conceptualize it I think. I fall under demisexual so while I’m highly sexually charged, arousal by a random person takes a lot of work to get to. To clarify further, I’m male, but I have so many turn-offs that people are essentially classified as unsexy by default until I’ve done heavy vetting (social and psychological conversational prodding to determine a person’s place in the metacontextual zeitgeist). Then on top of that I have physical and presentational preferences so finding partners is practically impossible. I got lucky that a Tinder date turned into the best LTR of my life, and a person I couldnt imagine being without now.

    This said, I’m very familiar with attraction after vetting, but social signifiers have rarely in my experience told me who a person was. Perhaps I’m more distrustful than you, but I can’t imagine getting past my sensors with only a glance. I’ve learned too many times that people are seldom what you think they are at first glance.

    To this extent, are you saying that a bi/pansexual has more physically charged sensors for attraction, and so that conversation is not necessary? To that end, is additional conversation LESS attractive? I ask because I’ve run into this feature with cis straight women, where my yapping turns them completely off, even if my body was green for them. Not through offence mind you, I notice they just get bored or overwhelmed with the conversation and wanted a spicier encounter.









  • “Has the largest” meaning a 3 comment average per thread. That’s what the OC is talking about. The communities in Lemmy World are really small in a way that makes it hard to hold together a sub. A new movie comes out and maybe one or two people talk about it on Lemmy while Reddit has hundreds.

    Then you might say, be the change you want to see, but Lemmy has a pretty small install base. Even if you participate, there isn’t anyone to follow, because the users here are usually white collar tech folk. Hence the interest groups being tech and politics.







  • I think I can shed light on the 6 7 hate. To do so though, I need to cover why people are okay with the others. 420 and 69 have been around for ages so they get a pass for being grandfathered and having transgressive origins. Quick maths (2+2 is 4, minus 1 that’s 3) got its fame for being an incredibly stupid thing to say in the middle of a rap while also simultaneously going way too hard for how silly it sounds. Lastly you have 21, which was a vine meme so again, a more grounded and community based origin.

    What makes 6 7 stand out is that it’s from the British school system, and British culture sucks.

    I rest my case.