Please don’t tell me to get off of it, I have old Livejournal friends to keep in touch with and that’s why I’m there.
Get off of it
Saying you have to stay on Facebook to keep up with people says you aren’t able or willing to put in the energy required to keep up with people yourself.
There are hundreds of communication platforms, and a most of them aren’t run by assholes trying to ruin society for their own personal gain.
People used to write letters to stay in touch. Literally basic email could fill that niche.
Just write an email
Just call them
Yeah no thanks
I’ll just scan for their name in the papers.
They don’t live near me. They’re all online friends.
And? You and I are online, right now, communicating across an unknown amount of distance, while you tell me having online friends means you need Facebook to keep in touch.
There are plenty of ways to communicate with people who aren’t in your town. I have friends on the other side of the country, and a couple over in the EU, and I can communicate with them just fine and never touch Facebook. If you don’t want to leave Facebook, just say it instead of hiding behind trivialities to excuse you staying there. I have plenty of friends who choose to give a pound of flesh to Facebook for one reason or another, but at least they admit they want to be there.
Never cared for this type of stuff while I was on Facebook. It’s been ages though. I don’t miss it one bit.
Like when you see they’ve changed to a joint account, and you think “ooh, which one of you cheated on the other?”
“We’re working on our relationship”. Well yes.
Man, the idea of people changing names based on who they bang is so wild to me.
I can’t believe how much of the world just… goes with it and thinks it’s normal. It’s definitely not normal. Just some serious psychosexual patriarchy mindfuck going on for so many people.
Anglosaxon cultures out there arguing about pronouns and it turns out they just casually rewrite their identity based on who’s the owner of their daughters going into the second quarter of the 21st century. Nuts.
It is. And young women are kind of forced into it as part of the conventional ideas of marriage and weddings. I didn’t change my last name, because I married an asshole who wanted me to feel bad for wanting “normal” things like that, which is another story, and in the end I’m very glad I didn’t, but my narcissistic mother was OBSESSED with me changing my name.
It does make it easier to work out who’s paired up with who, and which kid belongs to which parent.
The history of the practice is pretty gross, but there are some benefits.
No, hold on, those two things aren’t remotely the same.
It makes sense to work out which kid belongs to which parent, for sure. For one thing, a whole bunch of the legal system is based on who inherits what when people die. You want some way to keep track of that. There’s some weirdness about keeping track of the father rather than the mother, and some cultures keep track of both or of the mother first, which makes more sense, but that’s a different conversation.
But “who’s paired up with who”? Absolutely not. Why would it be more convenient to be unable to separate sexual partners from descendants? That is not a practical thing. And the stuff that’s preserving, which is that women are historically treated like children without full legal autonomy and part of the stuff being managed by a paterfamilias, is fortunately no longer true.
And of course once that gets recognized enough that even a bunch of Christianity admits that not all relationships are forever and reintroduces divorce (after centuries of treating women like perpetual property of their husbands) it makes absolutely no sense to have half the population ping-pong between names over their lifetime an arbitrary number of times. It’s not only logically absurd, it is actively inconvenient to both the first goal of pairing descendants but also administrative bookkeeping in general. I can only imagine the amount of public records errors induced by women changing their name a bunch of times over their lifetimes.
You know it’s a dumpster fire yet you remain. There was no way I was going to try and convince you.
Technically I still have an account. It’s from the before times when you could have a fake name and not need to verify anything. I’ve used it twice in 9 years, both times for selling things. Pissed it’s still the best place for that.
Facebook has had my middle name as a last name since day 1. I was never into giving them personal information.
I thought I was being original when I did this. Though I used my middle name so no one from my hometown could find me and I only use fb for marketplace. Fb needs a separate app for marketplace. When I bring this up my brother always goes “then I couldn’t check their page to see if they are a wierdo”. My guy, you were goonin over a girls account that bought your couch, you’re the creep. Like that’s exactly why it would be better. “Ebay 2.0 local buy sell trade” i don’t need to know Annie has 4 kids and golden retriever. All I need to know is the price, but I digress
Soooooo Craigslist? It’s wild to me how everyone flocked to FB.
I’m ok with a craigslist reboot. As long as we can bring back all the murders, drug dealers and hookers aka everything that made craigslist fun
It’s Angela, isn’t it?
