Yep 100%, I didn’t mean to make it seem like the other side is better, I think online dating is pretty terrible for everyone. I’ll think a long time about if I want to match with someone but I’ve heard many people say “just spam like and then you can decide on the couple matches you actually get.” I don’t go on because I don’t want to see the cardboard personalities, and actually cool women don’t go on for the exact reasons you said.
Hopefully in person hangout spaces become a thing again, since that’s so much better than online.
Don’t worry, I didn’t get the sense that you were saying it in “we have it worse” kind of way. I was just giving some additional perspective from my side of the aisle — because solidarity is always good when facing something a bit grim
I don’t think it’s necessary to have to put too much thought into clicking “like” on people when online dating; The landscape pretty much requires casting a wide net, regardless of gender. Some people go way overboard on that though — they treat people like they’re pieces of meat at the market, and then they mope about how lonely they are.
I have met good people on these apps, but man, it sure does take a lot of effort to get past the initial “vibe checking” stages (which can include the first in person date or so). Fortunately my profile is weird as hell, and whilst that doesn’t put off the creeps, it does draw in the people who are like “damn, this chick is weird…I bet we’d get on!”
Yep 100%, I didn’t mean to make it seem like the other side is better, I think online dating is pretty terrible for everyone. I’ll think a long time about if I want to match with someone but I’ve heard many people say “just spam like and then you can decide on the couple matches you actually get.” I don’t go on because I don’t want to see the cardboard personalities, and actually cool women don’t go on for the exact reasons you said.
Hopefully in person hangout spaces become a thing again, since that’s so much better than online.
Don’t worry, I didn’t get the sense that you were saying it in “we have it worse” kind of way. I was just giving some additional perspective from my side of the aisle — because solidarity is always good when facing something a bit grim
I don’t think it’s necessary to have to put too much thought into clicking “like” on people when online dating; The landscape pretty much requires casting a wide net, regardless of gender. Some people go way overboard on that though — they treat people like they’re pieces of meat at the market, and then they mope about how lonely they are.
I have met good people on these apps, but man, it sure does take a lot of effort to get past the initial “vibe checking” stages (which can include the first in person date or so). Fortunately my profile is weird as hell, and whilst that doesn’t put off the creeps, it does draw in the people who are like “damn, this chick is weird…I bet we’d get on!”