Big city mindset is something else altogether than that of the countryside or even small city: it’s an environment that teaches people to have a very low threshold to endure shit from others, even the “nicest” people, because when you live surrounded by thousands of people 24/7 and have to cross paths with literally tens of thousands every day just by walking on the street, enduring shit from others will quickly end up with you getting swamped by crap.

Further, in my own experience (granted, mainly in European cities), the bigger the city the more the people there have a big city’s very own special kind of grit. You can see this is even how pedestrians deal with traffic - the bigger the city the less people are willing to just wait for the signs to change and the more likely they are to just tell somebody blocking the way of other pedestrians to “either fucking move or fucking get out of the way”.

Of the people I’ve known over the years the only ones with an even lower threshold for taking shit than me were New Yorkers.