children lack the understanding of social contexts, and if you try to tell them “you can say those words at home, but not in other places” you’ll be hit with the “why” and if you don’t provide a good enough answer be prepared to be called by the kid’s school about their language
it’s fine to let the kids swear once they understand they shouldn’t do things like cuss at figures of authority. Because you do not want to have your kid suddently say “what does this fucker want again?” when you’re trying to deescalate a conflict with someone who has more power than you in a situation
My kids understood different contexts around four or five. Every kid is different of course, but the explanation for why we don’t swear in public was just “it makes some people really uncomfortable, so we don’t use those words in public to be nice to them”.
They still slip up once in a while, but hell, so do I!
I think you’re underestimating children and how they learn. I’ve seen this in practice and it works fine. It’s taught at an age appropriate level and in a way that they get.
I’m more than happy with the why questions, it’s why I won’t be a hypocrite, I need to be honest and true. If I can’t explain why I’ll explain why I can’t explain and we have a discussion. You might be surprised at how great they are with that.
children lack the understanding of social contexts, and if you try to tell them “you can say those words at home, but not in other places” you’ll be hit with the “why” and if you don’t provide a good enough answer be prepared to be called by the kid’s school about their language
it’s fine to let the kids swear once they understand they shouldn’t do things like cuss at figures of authority. Because you do not want to have your kid suddently say “what does this fucker want again?” when you’re trying to deescalate a conflict with someone who has more power than you in a situation
My kids understood different contexts around four or five. Every kid is different of course, but the explanation for why we don’t swear in public was just “it makes some people really uncomfortable, so we don’t use those words in public to be nice to them”.
They still slip up once in a while, but hell, so do I!
I think you’re underestimating children and how they learn. I’ve seen this in practice and it works fine. It’s taught at an age appropriate level and in a way that they get.
I’m more than happy with the why questions, it’s why I won’t be a hypocrite, I need to be honest and true. If I can’t explain why I’ll explain why I can’t explain and we have a discussion. You might be surprised at how great they are with that.
you said the same thing as me “age appropriate level” = “once the child can udnerstand contexts”. so i don’t get how i’m underestimating children here
my point was how not all answers will be good, or even if they are good, won’t be accepted by a kid, i’d rather wait until i’m sure they understand
Age appropriate is all levels, there’s no waiting. The swearing is there as normal, the explanation is age appropriate.
The child doesn’t have to accept the explanation , there just need to keep learning the boundaries, which is a large part of what growing up is.