• DefederateLemmyMl@feddit.nl
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    11 months ago

    Wonder how she’d feel if instead of her needing a physical aid, it would be him needing a visual aid.

    It’s like, if Mia Khalifa is on your team … Are you mad that she scored more points than you?

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      they are different senses, doesn’t really work as an analogy

      a super tight fleshlight would probably work better, which can also vibrate

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        they are different senses, doesn’t really work as an analogy

        It works just fine. Men tend to be more visually oriented, for women the physical part is often the limiting factor to reach a climax.

        In both cases something external is added to get over the other party’s “inadequacies”.

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        Dont even need that, plenty of dudes have issues where they prefer porn and masturbation to intimacy with their partner.

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          i dont have a partner, but i am (trying) to get over a porn/masturbation addiction myself right now…it’s…way tougher than it feels like it should be, but then i guess really thinking back it’s an addiction i’v had nearly 15+ years now.

          so i guess it’s no surprise some people have that issue continue while being in relationship

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            Its a much bigger societal problem than people want to admit. Good on you for admitting its an addiction, being aware of negative consequences is a big part of overcoming something. There are support groups for this stuff and it can help to have people who you can talk to that yoy might be embarrassed to talk to friends and family about.

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      If the guy has trouble reaching orgasm, sure. But in most straight relationships I’m familiar with it tends to go the other way, where the female partner needs more help to finish.

      An e-bike wouldn’t do much for Jonas Vingegaard, but it can be a game changer for someone who struggles with gentle hills.

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        in most straight relationships I’m familiar with

        So because it doesn’t happen to you, it doesn’t happen to anyone. Ok.

        It’s probably a little bit rarer than the other way around, but male anorgasmia exists especially as men get older.

        But as usual, male feelings and sexual problems are ridiculed and swept under the rug as unimportant.

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          That is emphatically not what I said.

          I was just sharing my experience since it informed the way I interpreted the joke. I think it makes sense for her to talk about using a vibrator with partners since that’s probably something she has experienced.

          Casting this joke as ‘male feelings being ridiculed’ is so strange. She’s talking about her own feelings, making light of the expectations her partners have set.

          It’s not bigoted or mean spirited. The joke is fine.