• Xanthrax@lemmy.world
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    4 days ago

    One time, I used Tinder. I’m pan, so I chose men, women, or any other form of identity. My Asian friend is honestly a 10/10. I’m white, and I’d rate myself a 7. I’d match with EVERY single man. EVERY. SINGLE. ONE. He got NO ONE. My main point is, it’s a bunch older men who want to fuck a white twink. I don’t know why that app has drawn that demographic, but they have. All that being said, using Grindr to just “hang out”, with people was way nicer. Sorry if you’re not a half gay, sloppy toppy. That’s just my anecdotal experience.

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      5 days ago

      Depends on where you live. If you’re in a rural mostly white area you’ll get less matches as an ethnic person because people don’t even consider other races.

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          Interesting. I’m half Asian. Probably a solid 7 or 8 as well and I get lots of matches. That said I’m a dom top and I think this hits a particular fetish a lot have and we’re rarer than Asian twink bottoms.

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      Quick question, I’m also pan and only now beginning to explore my sexuality. I’ve avoided setting up a Grindr account because I always thought it was just a hookup app and I’m not particularly interested in casual sex. Do people actually date on there or is it’s reputation well earned? Haven’t had any luck with the fellas on tinder, hinge, or bumble. Maybe I just look too straight lol

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        It’s a lot more forward. Just tell people what you want up front. If you want to hook up, you want to hook up. Sometimes, you just want to be in the presence of a queer friend. Sometimes, that friendship turns into a 10-year relationship. Just be honest and safe. That’s how I met my partner. All that being said, that was a long time ago for me. So things may have changed.