cross-posted from: https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/post/30147790
does anybody else go casually chat, go on a few dates, learn everything about each other go, show each other our favorite shows, binge then together, have tons of unprotected sex, learn new kinks, act like a married couple for a few months, then slowly fall out of love, start having poor communication and broken routines, paranoia and self insecurity sabotaging every opportunity to fix it, then just stop talking and become strangers, no, just me? okay. I’m fine.
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ain’t got any plans for the day, hit me up
Is this the BPD flag?
That was my exact thought. Just the comprehensiveness of the pattern lol.
As someone who had a few contradictory opininions from different doctors, one of which being BPD, it does sound a bit like something similar to what I sometimes experience, both easily getting to obsess over someone and to “forget” and to have to force myself to care later
I would recommend professional help to OP, even tho I am somewhat skeptical of psychiatry myself (in the “its a new science and not rigorously measurable way”). It’s not your friend’s/partner’s/etc. job to fix ya, and I myself ended up wanting to punish people for caring about me, that shit can break ya really suddenly, don’t ignore early signs
no
You had me in the first half
Reminds me of comedian, James Acaster saying that dating is just learning more about a person and slowly realizing that you don’t like them as much as you hoped you would.
“I should have warned you, some of the jokes are sad.”
Are the humans okay?
Newp!
Sounds good! 🥰 good new experiences
Well… ‘Good’.
🫠 im so in
Why the fuck would you out me like this
Fuck it.
Pass. We could be friends, though.
😞
Im in but i would also need to include some pretty harsh emotional abuse.
This is probably due to my personality but why would people go into a relationship just to end up abusing each other!?
But how will ibknow it’s love if we dont hurt each other and leave each other terrible ruined husks? What will i have ro remember her by after it’s over if not the emotional scars?
If you want something to remember her by and to also get her to remember you, the passwords
How many passwords can you fist?
As many as the keyboard can handle 😏
For a serious answer, bad mental wellbeing
Many people don’t know how relationships are supposed to work, they only have had bad experiences and lack perspective, they had bad parents which thus weren’t good role models, or they have mental health issues such as low self-esteem, or anxiety, or maybe even paranoia, and so on
There’s a whole host of reasons, but none of those reasons are rational. They’re broken results from struggling people. It’s important to try to be self-aware and figure out one’s issues to avoid things end up like this
I see. Interesting, that seems to be the opposite of me – I’ve had so few relationships because I never feel quite ready mentaly and so I’m very cautions.
Sounds fun.
are you me?
I can fix you.
