I turn my profile visible for about 24 hours. As a late 30’s woman, that gets me about 300 likes in a medium sized European city. (I pay for it, it’s impossible to use otherwise.)

I then go into my list of likes and use filters to start left swiping based on hard cutoff criteria (wants kids, Christian, etc). That drops it down to ~100 people. I use an app that has good filters.

I then go through reading profiles and looking at who is attractive for me (pictures and bio). That leaves about 25 people. I then match with all of them at once. Usually leads to 5 or so good conversations, and a few dates. Give it a shot, repeat if necessary.

If I leave mt profile visible for more than a few days I have thousands of likes. I match with most people I see swiping. It’s just not a feasible way to do it. And I’m not even attractive.

It’s just a flood and it’s nearly impossible to manage. It’s such a broken, asymmetrical system. I hate it so much.

Aww yesss a fresh Mariapost and fresh soup. <3

Yeahhhh pears and apples and stonefruits too here. It also happened suddenly, when I was 34 (4 years ago).

Still plenty of delicious food though, and you’re not alone <3

I also have severe fodmap reactions. No garlic or onion. It makes me very sad. :( :(

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You have the sweetest art. <3

Please crop your screenshots 😭 It makes my feed so long, since you’re posting so much lately.

I really like your posts otherwise!

Yep, and in Norway if you don’t have Facebook you are just as well shut out. Building association (that you live in), businesses, schools, it’s ridiculous.

It’s called Metalhead, from Black Mirror (you could have also just asked, instead of this comment, would have gladly said so).

I forgot how horrifying this episode was. Part of me wants to rewatch, part of me thinks it’s too close to our current reality.

Hi! Yes just joined, love it here.

This reminds me of the Christmas markets we have in Norway 🥰

I’m also ready for winter!

This is so gentle and sweet!