What about the dad that abandoned their kids but then reappears to ask for help now that their kids have reached success as a physician or other professional peak?
It’s always some bullshit excuse - “they’re going to cut off my electricity” “I need help paying for food” “I got kicked off Medicaid buy haven’t bothered to try to reapply” “I got heart surgery but still don’t plan to stop smoking”
There’s the human appeal of not wanting to see your father suffer. Knowing what it’s like to be poor. Every ~2 months it’s the same phonecall… Hey, can I get $3-500 just to get me through this month?
That one is really hard. You aren’t wrong if you say no, change your number, connect them with services, ignore, etc. But you have a heart so it still feels bad. So dad extra sucks for this.
Am I a bad person for wanting to see my father suffer? He’s an asshole, my three younger siblings and myself unfortunately have to live with him as my mom cannot find her own home (she’s staying with her dad). He’s inducing depression in even the youngest here (11 y/o). It’s infuriating.
I wouldn’t give a stranger a bunch if money, why would I give someone who abandoned me money. They’re basically a stranger and just using the father/family angle to manipulate who they can into giving them money.
For what it’s worth, if you’re his only child, he left before you were born, and never had another relationship after, there’s a very good chance he’s not a motherfucker. An asshole, yes, but not a motherfucker.
I’m proud to be a motherfucker, shows I stuck around after the baby was born (though that should be baseline).
What about the dad that abandoned their kids but then reappears to ask for help now that their kids have reached success as a physician or other professional peak?
It’s always some bullshit excuse - “they’re going to cut off my electricity” “I need help paying for food” “I got kicked off Medicaid buy haven’t bothered to try to reapply” “I got heart surgery but still don’t plan to stop smoking”
There’s the human appeal of not wanting to see your father suffer. Knowing what it’s like to be poor. Every ~2 months it’s the same phonecall… Hey, can I get $3-500 just to get me through this month?
Where were you for 25+ years mother fucker.
That one is really hard. You aren’t wrong if you say no, change your number, connect them with services, ignore, etc. But you have a heart so it still feels bad. So dad extra sucks for this.
Am I a bad person for wanting to see my father suffer? He’s an asshole, my three younger siblings and myself unfortunately have to live with him as my mom cannot find her own home (she’s staying with her dad). He’s inducing depression in even the youngest here (11 y/o). It’s infuriating.
I wouldn’t give a stranger a bunch if money, why would I give someone who abandoned me money. They’re basically a stranger and just using the father/family angle to manipulate who they can into giving them money.
For what it’s worth, if you’re his only child, he left before you were born, and never had another relationship after, there’s a very good chance he’s not a motherfucker. An asshole, yes, but not a motherfucker.
I’m proud to be a motherfucker, shows I stuck around after the baby was born (though that should be baseline).
That one is realistic though, the one in OP is just giving them redemption without making any effort to repair the damage or grow as a person.
This sounds like a classic alcoholic. Or substance abuse.