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  • In my other comment replying to the parent comment, I did that (by accident) and I left this part out but what I wanted to do was go onto ask lemmy or some similar community, link the original post and start a discussion there. Women get to keep they’re space, and men joining the conversation in good faith get to chime in

    I also saw one idea floated a while ago is a bot that automatically crossposts from those women only comms into a general community, basically same concept as idea 1 just automated

    But like I said in my other comment, while I would love to hop into those conversations, it kinda destroys the idea of women only community as they’d probably eventually be pushed/drowned out of their own space


  • Yeah one time I accidentally commented in one of the women’s space community, as I thought it was only a meme aimed at women. The mod both recognized it was an honest mistake, and noted it actually added the conversation so they kept it up but said something along the lines of “thank you this is great but this is also a women’s only space, please don’t do it again” and they were very respectful about it. So I just lurked in that comments section as to respect the rules

    Point is I too would probably be upset if my community was overran with “as a man”. What’s that one comic strip with the guy always going oh no, basically in the one I’m thinking of, they carve out their own niche, but then the majority comes in and kicks them out

    Like is my heart in the right place, yes I think so, but would it lead to a situation like that, also yes

    But I don’t see the point of people throwing a fit. Like go a general community like one of the Asks and throw it there. Like I fundamentally don’t understand people going “waaah I can’t be a part of something I didn’t want to be in”

    It reminds me of one of my friends upset he wasn’t invited to one of our line gaming get together, despite the fact they hate the game

    WHAT I MISSING I DONT GET IT



  • I’m assuming your on the younger side if you don’t drive and as a local youngin myself (early 20s) I don’t understand myself outside of being a vigorous rule follower

    -But a lot of cars get better mileage when in the 60-70 mph range (I think that’s roughly 100kph if memory serves, which it usually doesn’t) -It’s also just safer, traveling slower means less distance to stop, meaning you have a bigger window of reaction time before you put that crumple zone to the test -(I feel like a lot of EV owners forget this cus there’s no gas and clearly that’s the only thing in a car) but your car is a bunch of moving parts most importantly the wheels, so your brakes and tires will thank you -As another lemming mentioned seeing that one BMW pass you, then you get to catch up on them at a red light, 1 they used more gas, as motion is energy, and more motion needs more fuel. On top of that since they were driving like they’re doing it “for family” in a summer block buster starring Dwight “the stone” John. Meanwhile you get to glide nicely towards the red light giving your brake disks a light hug

    But keep in mind a difference in traffic speed is dangerous both ways. Yes the guy doing 120 in a 70 is a menace but so is the guy doing a 40 as they’re basically and obstacle. I usually do 70 (freeway speed limit for a stretch where I live) or 60 (speed limit for a majority of the freeway past a town) but sometimes everyone’s doing 90+ so I have to raise my speed. It’s why a lot of driving instructors will say that speed limits important but so is flow of traffic (tho flow of traffic outweighing the speed limit when determining your own speed has been very rare for me)

    TLDR, less money for gas and maintenance, and more importantly (wish I had more examples of the top of my head) safety






  • FlihpFlorp@piefed.zipOPtoGames@lemmy.world[Help][Palworld]
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    Yeah I already have global xp at half, but im trying this mod to disable crafting xp as i basically get a passive 2 xp from always having berries cooking.

    I extract UE4SS into win 64 and the mod into win64/mods, enable what they said to in mods.txt which im thinking is ConfigurableExpGainDefault: 1 and nothing. I disabled all steam workshop mods to make sure theres no interference and its not working

    im writing up what ive basically said in this post and my other comment to the page see if the author has any wisdom and/or if im being a dummy.

    And I’ve ran it a couple times now but all relevant folders seem to have been there

    Edit: but good to know once I figure out how to get it working its the same on steam deck


  • FlihpFlorp@piefed.zipOPtoGames@lemmy.world[Help][Palworld]
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    Ok so update still no luck
    But redoing as per the mod instructions. Disabled all steam workshop mods, installed the github verion of UE4SS, extracted the folder to “C:\Program Files (x86)\Steam\steamapps\common\Palworld\Pal\Binaries\Win64\Mods” and the configurable xp gain folder is inside, in both the steam and github version of mods.text added “ConfigurableExpGainDefault: 1” assuming this enables the mod but no luck.



  • You’ve put into words what I’ve processing between self reflection and talking with some buddies so tysm. But yeah I did sort of ghost her (she knew this was a possibility when we spoke last as she wanted to be friends but I needed to go over some stuff in my head) as things just got too complex I figured it would be best

    And yeah she was the one who asked me out (tbh did and still does wonders for my self confidence) but like I said after I’m done with my studies it’s gonna a much more active effort than hoping a friend makes the first move on me


  • For sure

    And I kinda walked away and came back to this several times but like I said, my take away is I’m happy it happened cus I learned stuff about myself (need those hugs and snuggles) but also what I want in a partner: someone who can help me (she didn’t do it that often tho), play games with and be a goober, someone who respects my needs but also communicates theirs, mostly that’s in the context of getting physical where after two years I didn’t get to second base (unless you consider me putting my head on her lap and falling sleep, best shit ever)

    But am I sad I never got super physical beyond smooching and snuggles, yeah sorta, but at the same time I view sex and getting handsy as a physical way for you and your partner ti feel great, essentially share a moment together that’s good for all parties involved. But if she can break up with me a week before Valentine’s Day yeah she doesn’t meet the criteria then

    But back to your point 100%, the future Mrs. FlipFlop is out there and it’s just a matter of searching and trial and error and error probably. But for me I’m almsot outta college and I’ll probably turn it into a more active search


  • I know I’m in the shitposting community but here’s story time for anyone who needs it (myself included probably and this may not be be super coherent as I’m still processing and getting over the breakup, or the incident as I like to call it, a year later )

    This is also a loose connection of the thoughts so there’s probably a coherent idea in here somewhere

    But when I entered college I was trying to make some friends as my highschool buddies moved outta state (we still communicate and game over discord) but there’s this one girl and the only reason we became friends is we shared the first year seminar and an English class.

    Fast forward a bit and she asks me out and I take about a half a week to ponder (foreshadowing what I would call a snails pace in our relationship but frankly that an insult to the speed of snails)

    And she’s definitely had her fair share of some traumatic relationships which with some other mental stuff she didn’t always want physical contact and sometimes she was… paranoid isn’t the right word, but I absolutely poured my heart into this relationship because after all these years I finally got a gf so I definitely had some rose tinted glasses on some her trauma responses such as calling my affection love dumping (she said it was a manipulation tactic used basically as “I’m sorry I’m sorry I love you so much” and she saw it as that)

    Anyways there’s so much more but all in all I’m happy it happened but in retrospect and only in retrospect I’m glad it’s over

    But I believe the right one is out there somewhere and it’s a matter of looking and finding someone who matches my weird