• Lasherz@lemmy.world
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    8 days ago

    I know most internet people are ready to offer psychological advice at the drop of a hat, but this is really a question for a therapist because every situation is different and we don’t know your struggles even close to enough to speculate.

    This doesn’t seem like something to rush into, personally.

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    I traveled to the city where I was born recently. Its the first time I’ve been there in twenty years that I haven’t felt anxiety making the trip. The reason is simple. My parents died last year and now that I know I’m not going to run into them I’m fine.

  • ℕ𝕖𝕞𝕠@slrpnk.net
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    I’ve done it, I didn’t like it, can’t say whether it did me any good. But your trauma is different from mine, so don’t take this as even a faint endorsement.

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    I don’t have any direct experience with that, and I can’t say if it’s a good or bad idea—but I’d say if you’re going to do it, it can’t hurt to do it with some friends and try to create some positive new experiences to overwrite the traumatic ones.

    • I mean I was just brainstorming. Politically, yea bad idea. But I was hoping for enough “cons” about this concept of “returning to scene of trauma” so I can dissuade myself from doing it, because idk why I just can’t stop thinking about that day when I had that fight with my brother and I ran off, and alone in that city. I used Baidu maps and it doesn’t exactly show everything, because some streets are too narrow to get filmed into the streetview.

      I was thinking like maybe retrace places I’ve been to, perhaps it could be therapudic. But yea this international border thing is too much of a hassle, so I feel like the potential benefits isn’t really worth it. Idk.

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        8 days ago

        Shockingly, people really can’t tell when you’re tripping balls unless they get a good look at your pupils and make note. ⚫️_⚫️

        I’ve been falling off the Earth and had perfectly normal conversations. A few times, “I’m sorry. I’m tripping my balls off here and not making sense.” 🫨 No one ever new. LMAO, I’ve talked to cops!

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    No, really.

    There are just some things in your life, that you have to really work on overcoming and distancing. I remember the first time I moved, I remembered taking some time out of my day to go back to visit my old home, that I lived in for so many years until moving. That old home contained numerous memories but a lot of negativity that built up in it. I really broke down that day and had to leave. I ended up moving back in soon after and then again years later after my second move-out.

    I’m on my third move-out and I wouldn’t want to try it again, also it helps because I’m a 1,622 miles, 4 states away from it.